Re: What is real sex? I married my first and only.
I also married my one and only (at 16 & 17) and our sex is NOTHING like you describe. I could make love for hours, I always make sure she has hers first (if she desires) and if I do go first, I will bring to orgasm orally. I absolutely LOVE giving her oral. I could go on and on. However, I wish I had a suggestion. have you talked? Does he care to do differently? (BTW married for over 40n years.)
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)