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Old 11-20-2012, 07:12 PM   #46 (permalink)
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I do it sometimes its about as close to sex as I get being in a sexless marriage. She pretty much sleeps right through it.
I think I might wake up if I got squirted on.
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Old 11-20-2012, 10:20 PM   #47 (permalink)
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kingsfan-I do a lot of reading on here,that is how I formed that opinion and why I made that statement..
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Old 11-21-2012, 09:53 AM   #48 (permalink)
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Then I don't what you are reading but I haven't seen that to be something that is felt by even close to the majority here. Sex is vital in a marriage, that seems universally agreed, but even tasks like duty sex, or chore sex, is frowned upon, nevermind "force them to do and behave the way they want and not accept them for who they are."
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Old 11-21-2012, 10:07 AM   #49 (permalink)
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Sex with the one you love is wonderful. I have done it a few times. I love my wife. If she has to go for a long period of time without sex, then sex beside the one I love is about the closest thing I can imagine. Not nearly as good, but we have to take what we can get sometimes.
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Old 11-21-2012, 11:25 AM   #50 (permalink)
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I masturbated in front of my wife for the first time yesterday, with her fully conscious of what I was doing. Her curiosity was up, so was mine. She watched in amazement and actually caressed my body and balls toward the end. She laughed when I ejaculated all over my chest. It was actually one of the best orgasm I have ever had jerking off. I told her that the moment of climax is one of the best feelings in the world...the best high one could ever ask for. Oh, how I love that feeling. I'm addicted to Oxytocin!
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Old 12-31-2012, 06:32 AM   #51 (permalink)
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I'm a big time stress masturbator.... a bad dream, bad day, etc will all have me masturbating in bed next to my husband while he's sleeping. It has nothing to do with him, I've always been that way. I just want that "selfish" release and relaxation for myself in those moments. And i don't see why i"d leave our bed to do that. My husband isn't particularly concerned with my masturbatory habits lol
Good for you Aribabe! I respect and admire your self confidence to do this in bed next to your husband. I am the same way, and my wife has never complained!
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Old 12-31-2012, 06:52 AM   #52 (permalink)
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I've done a couple times in rougher times. I definitely experienced that passive-aggressive feeling too. Now I just rather wait and express my frustration in the morning, or right there and then if appropriate. If she loves you, and she does, she'll be more than happy to provide sex or at LEAST help you out by touching your body or something. Ninja masturbation is fine if you feel like yourself and miss. right hand need alone time without the wifu.
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Old 01-02-2013, 12:16 AM   #53 (permalink)
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I would love to watch my husband jack off, but he is very very private witht hat sort of thing. I've just recently within the last 12 months have been able to ask him sexual questions about him jacking off and he actually truthfully answers me. He won't ever masterbate if he has me. Hed rather be inside me than resort to jacking off. Ive never really told him no, nit for many many years.

Hes working out of state right now, so I masterbate a lot now, but I also masterbated while he was home before he ahd to work out of state. Our sexlife in the past was not satisfying for me. I never wanteed him to catch me, so I would do it in the bathroom. I would hide my vibrator in the bathroom. Ive never been caught but he did find my vibrator once and call me to the bathroom to use it on me. I've never used my vibrator in our bed with him in the bed with me. I do have an interest in getting the courage up to use my vibrator for him to cathc me...I'd like to see what his reaction is.

I'd love to watch him jack off and then be able to take over. I don't think that will ever happen though.
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I masturbated in front of my wife for the first time yesterday, with her fully conscious of what I was doing. Her curiosity was up, so was mine. She watched in amazement and actually caressed my body and balls toward the end. She laughed when I ejaculated all over my chest. It was actually one of the best orgasm I have ever had jerking off. I told her that the moment of climax is one of the best feelings in the world...the best high one could ever ask for. Oh, how I love that feeling. I'm addicted to Oxytocin!
I'm addicted to oxytocin too
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Old 01-02-2013, 03:29 AM   #55 (permalink)
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blueskies30-you want hin to do it,put his hand around his package,then put your hand around his hand and start moving it up and down and just start telling him how hot you are feeling and how you always wanted to see that and play with his balls and anything else you can get to.

You could also bring out your Vib at the same time and just go for it,he wants to see you do it for sure so do it it for him.
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I would love to watch my husband jack off, but he is very very private witht hat sort of thing. I've just recently within the last 12 months have been able to ask him sexual questions about him jacking off and he actually truthfully answers me. He won't ever masterbate if he has me. Hed rather be inside me than resort to jacking off. Ive never really told him no, nit for many many years.

Hes working out of state right now, so I masterbate a lot now, but I also masterbated while he was home before he ahd to work out of state. Our sexlife in the past was not satisfying for me. I never wanteed him to catch me, so I would do it in the bathroom. I would hide my vibrator in the bathroom. Ive never been caught but he did find my vibrator once and call me to the bathroom to use it on me. I've never used my vibrator in our bed with him in the bed with me. I do have an interest in getting the courage up to use my vibrator for him to cathc me...I'd like to see what his reaction is.

I'd love to watch him jack off and then be able to take over. I don't think that will ever happen though.
Have you ever just taken him to the bedroom, disrobed him, and told him to masturbate while you either watch, or you use your vibrator while watching him get off?
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I've masturbated in bed before while my wife slept next to me. I'll be aroused, she won't be interested. I'll try to sleep, she'll nod off. If I can't get to sleep, I'll masturbate. Yeah, I'm too lazy to get up and do it in the bathroom. Besides, once I climax I like just laying there and falling asleep.
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As the posts in this thread have demonstrated, there are multiple reasons for self gratification while in bed next to your partner. Some good, some bad. It would be a mistake to ascribe one's feelings about this to others.
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Old 01-04-2013, 09:00 AM   #59 (permalink)
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Hm. I would just see it as an invitation like "come on, it'll be fun!". I've done it with the intent of waking and arousing my partner so they would join in.
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There can be many reasons for it. Like if one of you is sick, and neither of you has a hang-up about it.

There are people who do it to humiliate the other spouse, sure. Context means everything. Like calling out her little sister's name while doing it.

But if one spouse has higher drive than the other, and the lower drive spouse wants to actively deprive the other of release... that's petty control-freaky jealousy.
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