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Old 11-19-2012, 04:17 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi there,

Looking for a little help & outside creativity. One of my wife's habits when in snuggling, foreplay, pillowtalk time is to ask me "Who Are You, Anyway?"

This is has come to be an invitation to light role play. No dressing up or anything. She's just seeking me to weave a little story telling where sometype of visitor to the house comes up with a reason/rationale to get her into bed.

I have no problem with this. She asks the question maybe one out of every four times we hook up. My challenge is that I'm running out of viable stories.

Of course, I've done all the service industries. Cable guy, AC guy, mailman, plumber, etc. I've done guys coming to house to sell, do surveyes, prostelitize. Last week, I was a grassroots Obama campaign worker going house-to-house to personally "thank women across America" for their support.

After 20 years of marriage, it's still tough to come up with fresh material. Welcome any and all ideas. Here are basic parameters:

-No dressing up.
-Paint stories with words.
-Theme carries for five to 10 minutes in foreplay.

I also welcome any input on how I can better leverage this question overall. She's a bit timid in bed overall. Still looking for the type of story that will encourage her to embrace a bit more of the wild side.

Thx in advance.
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Old 11-19-2012, 04:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
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OMG!! Thought I heard it all. You sir are funny!!!

Have you tried....."I'm Bob from the new butcher shop in town, I've come by to offer you a sample of our sausage!!!!"

Good luck
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Old 11-19-2012, 04:35 PM   #3 (permalink)
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That sounds like sooooooooo much fun !!! ROFLMAO
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Old 11-19-2012, 04:44 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I think you need to turn the tables on her. Every other time you need to ask her......"who are YOU anyway?" She has to play too!!! This may help her break out of her shell...acting the part of someone a tad bit wilder!
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You're a naughty TSA screener but she really needs to get on a flight.
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:02 PM   #6 (permalink)
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YouKidding,

This is a good idea. I have tried to beat her to the punch from time to time, asking her before she asks me. She typically seems stumped and doesn't have a good answer. I haven't tried in awhile, though. Maybe I should re-visit this.

I typically know that I'll be getting this question from time to time. So, I try to have one or two ideas on-call. I'm not creative enough to think of these on the fly!
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OMG!! Thought I heard it all. You sir are funny!!!

Have you tried....."I'm Bob from the new butcher shop in town, I've come by to offer you a sample of our sausage!!!!"

Good luck
I knew the sick minds on this board would come up with some good ideas. Already good for the next round. Thanks Didn't!
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:06 PM   #8 (permalink)
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You're a naughty TSA screener but she really needs to get on a flight.
We're taking a big trip in January. So, this makes the pillowtalk cut, as well! Many thanks!
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:13 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Sorry I don't have any suggestions but wanted to say this seems like fun. I got a kick out of the Obama campaign worker!

Do you ever ask her who she is?
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I think you need to turn the tables on her. Every other time you need to ask her......"who are YOU anyway?" She has to play too!!! This may help her break out of her shell...acting the part of someone a tad bit wilder!
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:20 PM   #11 (permalink)
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you could be a British double agent, sent in to honeytrap her!

or a mature student from abroad looking to lodge in her house and pay her in kind

or a naughty priest coming to exorcise evil spirits from the house
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:22 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Is be a guy from another planet that only has men and reproduction is achieved without sex via incubators and technology - it is the first time you have seen a woman and the first time you've experience feelings of desire - you are intrigued by your own erection having never seen it before...take it away my master!
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Old 11-19-2012, 05:32 PM   #13 (permalink)
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This must be the most adorable thread I've seen on this board.

Also just play this when getting it on.
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Old 11-19-2012, 11:57 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Of the most recent batch, the visiting priest has some potential. The whole pedophile thing could knock the winds out of the sails of that one though!

I don't think I'm skilled enough of a story teller to pull off the alien visiting from outer space. However, I will give you credit on this: I have never used a story remotely like this in 20+ years of doing this. Kudos for creativity.

I agree with posters that I should try asking her again sometime soon. I'm considering using an approach where I ask "Who are you anyway?" And then give her some bread crumbs to help her get a story started, such as "Are you coming here to check up on me?"

You all have been so good with ideas, does anyone have any thoughts on what I could do to fill in the blank when suggesting a scenario to her? I want something broad enough that I don't dictate the line of her story but something with just enough specifics to get her started.

Also continue to welcome ideas for me to use when she asks her question, as well!

Thanks to all!
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MarriedTex

I love your pillow talk

Your wife could be a bull rider

Cheers
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