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Old 11-26-2012, 08:27 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Okay. I am not sure if this has been covered quite this way, so if so my apologies.

However, I have a question. Probably for the women, but maybe for everyone.

Do you (would you) enjoy watching your spouse masturbate? The reason I ask is that I would like her to watch me. I don't know why, just that I would. I have it in my head that she could watch or join in if she wanted (join in being...whatever she wanted it to be).

But sometimes fantasy's are better off staying fantasy's...

So, women, what would you do if your husband asked you to sit down and watch him? Would that be weird? A turn off?

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Old 11-26-2012, 08:29 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Major turn on for me as is mutual masturbation. I love to watch him.

Have said it before though Ladies, it is damn painful to get a shot in the eye so be warned.
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Old 11-26-2012, 08:30 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I think you will be pleasantly surprised by the responses you are going to get.
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Old 11-26-2012, 08:33 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Yes I love to watch my man masturbate.... very sexy.
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Old 11-26-2012, 08:46 PM   #5 (permalink)
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But how do you start it? Would it be weird if I just invited her in to the bedroom and started some kissing and then jus went with it?
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Old 11-26-2012, 08:54 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I asked my husband for years and years to do this for me. He was shy and coy about it and felt strange doing it.
I know it is not everyones idea of a turn on, but I would be talking to her about it. Don't ust do it or push her. Open the idea up in the world of communication. Start by talking about your sew life, likes and desires and what you would like. It would only make you more open and comfortable.
There were things I wanted to try and my husband wanted to try that the other didn't. Some of them we did for the sae of each other but there were other things that we found we had in common and both wanted to try.
I think communication and talking about sex and fantasies is really good.

PS. I am very turned on now that he can do that in front of me
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Old 11-26-2012, 09:27 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I did just a week ago for my wife...towards the end, she jumped in and assisted. It was one of my best orgasms I have ever had masturbating. It was awesome!
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I agree with the others, communicate about it first. SO and I had already talked about masturbation and were very open with each other about our "habits".
It is just a natural part of our sex lives.

I would have felt a bit odd if he invited me into the bedroom to watch. We do shower together and that is a good place to do it.
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Old 11-26-2012, 09:41 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Just make sure you have good communication going. She may or may not like it if you plan on popping in your copy of Barely Legal 121 in the DVD player.
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Old 11-26-2012, 10:18 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I would watch.. Join whatever.
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Old 11-26-2012, 11:14 PM   #11 (permalink)
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So I'm suddenly feeling all alone here in the corner, but that is not something I would ever have asked to see him do. I guess I wouldn't be surprised if he wanted to watch me, but the reverse just never crossed my mind.

Maybe I'll find myself reconsidering someday? The above posts sound convincing despite my doubts.
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Old 11-27-2012, 12:49 AM   #12 (permalink)
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So I'm suddenly feeling all alone here in the corner, but that is not something I would ever have asked to see him do. I guess I wouldn't be surprised if he wanted to watch me, but the reverse just never crossed my mind.

Maybe I'll find myself reconsidering someday? The above posts sound convincing despite my doubts.
While he's watching you, you watch him.
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Old 11-27-2012, 01:56 AM   #13 (permalink)
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When you are both in the bed nude,just lay down next to her kissing her telling her how hot she is making you and start getting yourself off,tell her you would just like to look at how beatiful she is.


A great number of women are very curious about the male body and how things work.
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Old 11-27-2012, 07:16 AM   #14 (permalink)
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I LOOVEEE watching him!!!
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Old 11-27-2012, 08:46 AM   #15 (permalink)
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See if she's into it first, some women like it, others dont. If she's one that dont, you dont want the embarrassment of that hanging around.
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