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Old 12-03-2012, 11:35 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hello all, I want one and want to tell my husband how to give me one.

I keep thinking I'll buy the book, "She Comes First," and give it to my husband, but I've bought other sex books with tips and asked him to read and he won't, so I think I just have to tell him, which I will any night now. After reading lots here over the last few weeks, I am slowly losing my shyness and feeling more bold about asking him to try new ways to use his fingers and mouth on me. I don't think he takes me seriously, though, and must think he's a fabulous lover that doesn't need any advice.

On Sat. night, he was using his fingers on my clitoris, which he rubs with a vengeance, which is really too forceful and hard, and asked him to trace letters, like an S and small n. I think he thought that must be ridiculous. He did each letter once, although I couldn't recognize any letters, then reverted back to the aggressive rubbing.

I know I need to have a more direct conversation with him and ask him to try new techniques so that I can have a more fulfilling sex life. I know I'd look forward and want sex more if I enjoyed it more.

And although I'm looking for tips for oral sex, the G-spot orgasm is elusive to me, even with the use of a G-spot vibrator. I'm not looking for a mind-blowing vaginal orgasm - any kind of vaginal orgasm would be a good place to start there, but I'm mainly asking about a clitoral orgasm, since I know I can do that.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I can only advise from a mans point of view.
Manual stimulation directly does work. But it's not something that produces screaming orgasms. This is reserved for oral stimulation. Is he happy to do this?
There are two situations that have my DW screaming into a pillow (she even has a small pillow just for this purpose)
1. Using a large glass dildo thrusting in and out whilst using my tongue directly on her clit.
2. On her hands and knees again using my tongue directly against her clit but from behind. This maybe little 'out there' as my nose is directly in her anus area.
But, it works for us. She either needs her pillow close by or we have to be in an empty home.

If your secure enough to try this then why not ask.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:17 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Women scream during orgasms?

Some TAM women have taught me that a "screaming orgasm" is a myth that women perpetuate for the sake of making men feel better, and is really just about acting like you're much more turned on than you really are.

Perhaps you're chasing a unicorn?
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No acting here... there are times when I have to beg him to stop, because it is soooo sensitive...
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:32 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Your not going to overcome this problem until you can rid yourself of the shyness and speak in clear language with him to tell him what you want. If you think you cannot get it out in person, try writing a letter.

If you've set the precedent that everything he has been doing has been fine by you, he has no reason NOT to believe he's got excellent bedroom skills. Hinting about trying new things isn't going to be enough to wake him up. Be prepared that he may even be upset that you've let him continue on for so long thinking he knew what you liked. He may be a bit miffed that you've waited so long to tell him.

I truly believe that most men truly want to satisfy their partners. It is your responsibility to teach him how to do that. You shouldn't expect him to come to bed just knowing what is going to work for you. No matter how much experience he's had prior to you, each woman is so different. Techniques he learned may not work on you. Similarly, any knowledge gained from a how-to book may prove just as useless.

Your pleasure is your responsibility. Begin by learning your own body. Then you must teach him what you have learned. He can help you come up with new ways to get there, but only after you and he have mastered the basics of what definitely works for you vs. what doesn't. Have him watch you masturbate. That is the easiest way to have him understand what works for you. Until I did that in front of my H, he had no idea that I needed constant, repetitive movement to O. He was taking his tips from porn, sadly!
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:33 PM   #6 (permalink)
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As a man, I have found the key to giving my wife screaming orgasms is to love what I am doing. I think that sometimes guys can see doing things to their wives as a chore. Rub, rub, lick, lick.....now let me stick it in.
When I give my wife oral, I make it into a feast. I love giving her oral almost as much as she likes receiving it. I take my time. The reason I do is because I want to savor every moment. I want to see how her body responds when my tongue touches her clit and when I gently nibble on the folds of her labia. I love it when she grabs my head and runs her fingers through my hair as I am engulfing every inch of her. Soft and slow that builds up to a huge finish. I could easily spend 30-45 minutes down there. The entire time, I am enjoying myself immensely. Your husband is going to have to learn to see your pleasure as his pleasure.
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For my partner it's more about stimulating her all over before diving for the clitoris. Kissing and touching all those sensitive areas for an extended period of time before moving on to her clitoris is what works for her. And even then not treating it like a sprint. Build her up...tease her...touch her some more...then build her up a little more and so on...
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Old 12-03-2012, 01:19 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My wife seems to like it when I use a bit of suction as she is about to climax...pulling her clit and part of her labia into my mouth and run my tongue all around it in a swirling and back and forth motion...maintaining the suction, all the while my figures are partially inserted, softly pressing and moving back and forth on her g-spot.
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Old 12-03-2012, 04:25 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Thanks Oldmatelot...thanks to last night my marriage is back on track....for now...so tonight OR tomorrow
night I will try licking her clit with her on her hands and knees....should be a hoot!
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Old 12-03-2012, 04:29 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Order a rabbit vibrator (you can even do so on Amazon if you're shy of adult toy sites) and have him go down on you while both parts of the toy do its thing. You'll cum in seconds. And if he's lousy in bed, you won't need him once you have the rabbit.
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Old 12-03-2012, 05:29 PM   #11 (permalink)
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We were just fooling around and I was rubbing my clit while he watched, then he put his fingers inside me with firm pressure on my g spot, the ensuing orgasm was extremely intense. I don't usually get a lot out of g spot stimulation but this combined effort really worked.
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Old 12-03-2012, 05:44 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Hello all, I want one and want to tell my husband how to give me one.

I keep thinking I'll buy the book, "She Comes First," and give it to my husband, but I've bought other sex books with tips and asked him to read and he won't, so I think I just have to tell him, which I will any night now. After reading lots here over the last few weeks, I am slowly losing my shyness and feeling more bold about asking him to try new ways to use his fingers and mouth on me. I don't think he takes me seriously, though, and must think he's a fabulous lover that doesn't need any advice.

On Sat. night, he was using his fingers on my clitoris, which he rubs with a vengeance, which is really too forceful and hard, and asked him to trace letters, like an S and small n. I think he thought that must be ridiculous. He did each letter once, although I couldn't recognize any letters, then reverted back to the aggressive rubbing.

I know I need to have a more direct conversation with him and ask him to try new techniques so that I can have a more fulfilling sex life. I know I'd look forward and want sex more if I enjoyed it more.

And although I'm looking for tips for oral sex, the G-spot orgasm is elusive to me, even with the use of a G-spot vibrator. I'm not looking for a mind-blowing vaginal orgasm - any kind of vaginal orgasm would be a good place to start there, but I'm mainly asking about a clitoral orgasm, since I know I can do that.
So, your G-Spot is actually part of your clitoris - it's just stimulated on its back side from the inside of your vagina. Your clitoris is HUGE. It extends from the head that we all know and love, all the way down your vulva, slightly curved around the outside of your vagina, and ends near the anus.

Many women, I believe in the ball park of 70%, are unable to orgasm from G-spot stim, alone. Most need some sort of external clitoral stimulation.

MAKE your husband read she comes first. It is a book on cunnilingus. THAT'S ALL. My wife thought my skills in that department were lacking. Well, NO MORE! Trust me, it's the best thing you can have your husband do for you if you really want to have an orgasm from oral.
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Old 12-03-2012, 06:44 PM   #13 (permalink)
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thanks all and thanks daneosaurus for your endorsement of that book and admitting that your oral skills were lacking but that this booked helped. I CAN get an orgasm from oral, but it's so boring and frustrating by the time I do orgasm. He's too fast, rough, wrong place. I'll get that book. Thanks so much.
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Manual stimulation directly does work. But it's not something that produces screaming orgasms. This is reserved for oral stimulation. Is he happy to do this?
Not so in my experience. Quite the opposite. Oral stimulation will produce a "nice orgasm", and if she's a "screamer", sure, she'll make some noise. But in order to give a woman a true close the windows, hope the neighbors don't hear type screaming orgasm, you have a much greater chance of doing so via manual stimulation and a vaginal orgasm.

Right about the time she's saying "no, stop, no" is about the time to "throw on the gas", don't give up, and push her over the edge into the orgasm she's almost afraid to have.

When they're screaming, taking skin off your back, have uncontrollable body movements, and they're speaking in a language you've never heard before, you're there. I've never seen a woman get very close to that via oral stimulation.
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If you want your woman to scream during orgasm, do her from behind and just as she's coming have your best friend jump out of the closet and yell "BOO!"

I bet that would do it
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