Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Washington State
Re: Wife and I haven't had sex in eight years
I don't judge you for what you've done in the past to try to cope. I do think that what you're contemplating for the future is a mistake. In my mind there are only really 3 reasonable choices. Best choice is that your wife finds some way to be sexual. 2nd best choice is that you divorce. Last choice is that she continues to let you have a mistress. Perhaps a live-in mistress, poly thing. I guess my attitude is more of a 'put out or get out', 'use it or lose it' attitude.
Of course, we're only getting one side of the story. Your reaction to IILWMH on this thread shows a bit of your personality, so I do have to wonder how much of your wife's low drive has to do with that.