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Old 12-08-2012, 01:45 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Ladies, how quick can you orgasm?

From about the time my W got comfortable with me, she has never been hard to get to orgasm, either timing wise or with multiples. It didn't start out that way, but over not a lot of time (a couple months), she has been an orgasm machine. I tried to really "learn her" and spent a lot of time trying to give her orgasms....both a lot of them and different types.

But one thing I've noticed as time goes on, is she seems to orgasm quicker and quicker. She's not much into foreplay, which is slightly disappointing for me as I am, and typically wants to get "right to business" pretty quick. I love to slowly tease her and get her really ramped up, but she has always been fine with just getting right to intercourse. I swear, if she says "I'm horny", all I have to do is make sure I can get it in without hurting her from lack of lube on the outside, and she is immediately and fully "into it".

I try to keep the sexual tension pretty high with her at most times. Several times a day, there are sexual undertones to our conversation or things I'll say (or I'll fairly often just boldly tell her I can't wait to get home to phuck her or watch her orgasm). Just enough to let her know I'm still desiring her, and even (as the last couple months or so) when I'm so very stressed and not always in the mood, I like to keep the sexual tension high and let her know she's desired. Sometimes we're going at it 4 or 5 days a week, sometimes two or three times a day, and other times we'll take an unspoken "break" where neither of us initiate or seem very "horny" for a week or even two, and both are content just to cuddle on the couch or fall asleep cuddling in bed. It amazes me that we seem so in sync that we both seem to want it about the same, or at times not much at all, and these desires (or lack thereof) seem to fall to both of us about the same. We are so damned content and there is never any sexual frustration, even during periods where we aren't having sex.

As time goes on, her orgasms seem to be coming faster and faster. Last night when we got back from being out with friends after a work function out of town, we got back to our room and I threw her down on the bed, balcony door "open to the world" (yet not visible to anyone), pulled her panties off quickly, passionately, and a little forcefully, told her "I need to be in you now", went straight to intercourse, and within a no kidding 15 to 20 seconds after penetration with no foreplay, she was already starting her "I'm....I'm...." ("I'm coming" in my W's speak) and started first orgasm. I'm used to her having one after just a couple of minutes or sometimes even just one minute, but 15 seconds?!!! The timing to her first orgasm seems to just keep decreasing as time goes on.

What drives a woman to this "ability" if you will? Am I just the luckiest guy on earth, or have some of you women found an ability to do this when you are incredibly comfortable, happy, trusting, and satisfied in a relationship? We have an outstanding relationship, she was in a bad and sexless marriage for many years before me where she just did not want sex at all, and we hit it off exceptionally well in bed (and in the relationship in general) from almost the start. But again, 15 seconds? I knew I (she / we) was / are "lucky" in this department, but this just blows my mind.
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Old 12-08-2012, 03:37 AM   #2 (permalink)
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It starts with F

and ends with E.
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Old 12-08-2012, 07:00 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Agreed

Donny64: it's highly unlikely that 15 seconds of "dry" intercourse would cause any woman to actually orgasm. Other than the "I'm cumming" thing that she does.... do you know the signs of an actual female orgasm?
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Old 12-08-2012, 08:07 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Alone I'm there within 2 minutes or so.

With a partner, it depends. The guy I'm seeing right now can make me orgasm fast. I'd say about 5 minutes-ish? The last guy I was with....sex was pretty disappointing and towards the end I didn't orgasm at all.
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Old 12-08-2012, 11:16 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I've never faked an orgasm in my life... I them and I WANT MINE... Been this way forever. MY drive has always been decent, and steady...

For the 1st 19 yrs, we didn't have as much sex as we COULD and SHOULD have... so when we got to it -we were both dying for it... the passion was so high, both of us on the verge...foreplay so heavenly ...it couldn't last... he'd have to remove my hand from touching him ...and when I got on top...probably only 2 minutes & very slow pumping & it was ALL OVER!

Had we been having more sex, this would have lasted way longer.

Then during my HIGH DRIVE phase, I literally needed 0 foreplay....never forget one day...got on top, and within 30 seconds I had one... he was like "WHAT??"

It was also the only time I had 2 in one session (the 2nd being of lessor intensity)... I don't understand this multiple orgasm thing women talk about.

Now that I'm back down from the clouds...normal decent steady drive again .... because we do it 4-5 times a week, pumping lasts anywhere from 6- 15 minutes now...and we need faster, harder to get there.

It sounds FISHY to me... a woman getting off in 15 seconds IF she needs LUBE... if she is that "ready to go" - the LUBE would be abundant in her panties..(as this was my experience for 8 months straight, I could not get enough -I would have hog tied him down if he made me wait longer than 2 days, I NEEDED IT!!)....

Even today...although I rarely need lube...there are times I need to reach for it....(hate that)...and ....the times I DO need it... I take longer to get off......but that is JUST ME.
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Old 12-08-2012, 11:22 AM   #6 (permalink)
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My wife is in the under 5 minutes club on a good day, and that's with no foreplay whatsoever. 15 seconds would be some kind of new world record, but I guess it just means she was already there in her head way before you started.
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We all know from prior threads that there's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm.

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Old 12-08-2012, 12:30 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Sorry, but no, not it. I know full well the signs. She never fakes. No reason to as she has plenty of them, and is never in a hurry to finish. This was legit.

She's never needed any kind of lube, but (sorry for the graphic) without foreplay and the help of an inserted finger to help "distribute" her natural lube to just the outside, it can hurt or give her "wind burn" or "chapped lips" as she says. No different from any other woman I've been with. "Wet" does not automatically tranfer to the outside without a little help to distribute, if you get what I mean.

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Old 12-08-2012, 12:38 PM   #9 (permalink)
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The only time I O very quickly w/o foreplay is when I am really really ready to go before he even touched me and no lube is needed. But I still think that took at least a couple of minutes. I do O quickly with oral unless he's teasing me, and even then it for me it's at least 3 minutes, but that's still with foreplay.
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15 seconds with no foreplay? Really?

I have never orgasmed in 15 to 20 seconds with no foreplay. The earliest would be a few minutes, maybe 4-5 minutes. No way could I orgasm without foreplay. None of the girlfriends of mine who talk about their sex lives have either. In fact, many of them take well over 10 minutes to come AND that's not counting the long foreplay before penetration.

I'm sorry but my first impression was that your wife is faking it and you're falling for it. Look at the scene from When Harry Met Sally (the deli scene). A woman can fake it very well if she wants to.
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Old 12-08-2012, 12:59 PM   #11 (permalink)
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5ish minutes by myself.....really horny about the same with a partner....usually say 10-15 minutes....
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It might be rare...but, I don't see why she should be faking it...esp when he states they're both happy with their sex lives and open (one can fake the body movements, the expressions and the noises...but the throbbing/contractions that occurs in those areas just after - now, that can't be faked right...)

I can orgasm in 20-30 seconds too without any real foreplay if I'm already up for it (thanks to maybe a steamy scene from a movie or a romantic novel)...however, I must mention that the only way I can orgasm is with fingering and if I'm already revved up I'm generally there under a minute... I rarely take more than 2 minutes to reach an orgasm... if its been a while since I've had an orgasm I can have about 3 in a session (all by fingering only)

If my head's not in it... then it can take me a few minutes to orgasm... either way I never try (or let hubby try) longer than a few minutes if its not happening...personally I find its better to leave it for a while and then come back to it rather than trying too hard to focus etc... that gives me leg pain as I feel my muscles tighten too hard before an orgasm...

Oral causes me anything between a burning sensation to a moderate amount of stimulation/excitement...penetration causes me marginal stimulation (and I'm even having any sensation with PIV only in the last few months...that's after my drive increased and I accidentally found something that I realized is commonly referred to as the 'g-spot' lol )
prior to this PIV seemed to feel nothing beyond affectionate brushing between skin and skin... I had no sensations with PIV whatsoever...YET I used to be wet enough -even while LD!!!
Strangely enough, ever since I turned HD there's a spot between my neck and shoulders now that arouses me even more than oral could ever ...Lord...my body's strange

This makes me think that everyone responds to different things differently...

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I'm sorry but my first impression was that your wife is faking it and you're falling for it. Look at the scene from When Harry Met Sally (the deli scene). A woman can fake it very well if she wants to.
I realize some women are good at faking it, but that has never been the case with the W. I know the way her body moves, muscle contractions, and what she does when she's having an orgasm. Some women can put on a "good show", but there are things that simply can't be faked. If she's faking, she's likely the only woman alive that can face rapid anus contractions. And I know, because as soon as she starts with the "I'm coming" thing and her body starts convulsing in the way it does, I go right to putting a finger back there because it really sets her off and puts her right over the top.

Plus, she has more than her fair share of orgasms. It is typical for her to have at least 3 in a session, often more than that, and she is never in a hurry for me to get off. She'll have intercourse for as long as I can stand to keep going.

I'm beginning to wonder if it has something to do with kegals. About a year ago she started these exercises. That seems to coincide timing wise with her more rapid onset of orgasm. And this last time, she just felt GREAT inside. I've noticed the difference after her kegals, and she'll often do them during intercourse as well, but this time about all I can describe it as is she just felt very "snug" along the entire length of me when I was in her. Possibly because she was wet, but not overly so (she gets very wet naturally), but she just felt incredible inside. Must have something to do with her being able to feel more as well.

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Donny64 you say you just got home... was their sexy talk/play in the car on the way home?
I'm just wondering if she wasn't already well on her way along the path of arousal by the time you got home.

In my case if there is lots of sexy chat and flirting (not necessarily anything physical) with hubby i can get really really turned on... cause I KNOW what's coming (pun intended)

Great news that the kegals are making a difference for you...and maybe for her too by the sounds of it!
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If its been a week or so for oral on me, then it's a good chance I'm going to pop in a minute or so, sometimes I have that down side, if it's been a week, it will be longer.

Typically 5 minutes if it's going into sex, maybe 10 minutes if he had a bj, or I'm returning the favor.

The longest it can take is 30 minutes. Now PIV, it takes forever. I usually give up on that.
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