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Old 07-28-2009, 03:29 PM   #16 (permalink)
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My wife is the same sometimes. When we're having an orgasm together it's fantastic and she's all into me cumming deep inside her. But if she's already had her orgasm and I'm still going she'll almost always tell me not to cum inside her because of the mess. I absolutely hate it when I can't finish inside her because that's taking away the incredible feeling of being inside her at the most intense part of sex during my climax! I don't feel rejected per se but it does bother me. We don't have sex that often (once a week usually) so at least let me enjoy it to the fullest. Maybe if we were having sex every day it wouldn't be a big deal but since it's not even close to how much I want it I would like it to be as enjoyable as possible, make sense?

Now if she would let me cum in her mouth instead I would love that as an alternative to jerking off on her belly or breasts!
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Old 07-29-2009, 07:43 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Hey, at least your wife's vajayjay isn't allergic to your cum, yeah, my wife started having severe allergic reactions if I came in her vagina about 4 months ago, haven't been able to finish inside down there since.

She is seeing doctor's about this new phenomenon (we've been married 9.5 years and this just started).
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Old 07-29-2009, 08:03 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Hey, at least your wife's vajayjay isn't allergic to your cum, yeah, my wife started having severe allergic reactions if I came in her vagina about 4 months ago, haven't been able to finish inside down there since.

She is seeing doctor's about this new phenomenon (we've been married 9.5 years and this just started).
She is quite possibly allergic to something you are eating or drinking and it can be transfering to her in your semen. I'd make special mention of any new medication, herbs, or food you started around four months ago. Same with any new soaps you are using to wash with, specially if they have any perfume of any sort as an ingredient.
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Old 07-29-2009, 09:15 AM   #19 (permalink)
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She is quite possibly allergic to something you are eating or drinking and it can be transfering to her in your semen. I'd make special mention of any new medication, herbs, or food you started around four months ago. Same with any new soaps you are using to wash with, specially if they have any perfume of any sort as an ingredient.
The problem/weird part is, if I finish ANYWHERE else, stomach, legs, chest, even if I finish in her during anal, there is no reaction...only vaginal...
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:42 PM   #20 (permalink)
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The problem/weird part is, if I finish ANYWHERE else, stomach, legs, chest, even if I finish in her during anal, there is no reaction...only vaginal...
The vagina has mucous membranes that will absorb what ever the allergen is much better than the skin will. Just like people with seasonal allergies get a stuffy nose as the mucous membranes inside the nose become inflamed, rather than the skin on the exterior of their nose turning bright red.

The anal area would probably be affected, but may get less exposure time. Semen can last up to five days in the vagina, I'm betting whatever is in the rectum after anal sex comes out faster than that. ;-)
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Old 07-29-2009, 05:57 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Please forgive me for my bluntness. It's NOT the actual coming inside that is the issue here. THAT is wonderful!!!! It's the cleaning up afterwards that IS the issue.

So, having said that guys. Imagine another hour or two of wetness seeping from you IF you don't get up and clean up. Wetness during passion is one thing. Wetness seeping from you as your passion is cooling and or cold is a whole other feeling.

I'm pretty sure THAT is the issue she was referring to. At least it is for me.
My neo cortex understands the viewpoint that sleeping in the "snail trail" is icky. Sorry about that. Really. But the rest of me thinks the entire point of ejaculation is to drop a load deep in the vagina as often as possible. Or to move on to a woman that's going to co-operate with that. Like I say though, I'm not very complicated.
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Old 08-02-2009, 12:04 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 08-02-2009, 12:11 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Its not that difficult to clear up !! surely you could go shower together after ?? i enjoy cumming inside my wife or in her mouth ..be such a waste to cum anywhere else !
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Old 08-02-2009, 12:50 PM   #24 (permalink)
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Are people so shallow that they're willing to end an entire relationship because their partner won't/or doesn't want them to cum inside them?
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Old 08-03-2009, 07:40 AM   #25 (permalink)
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Are people so shallow that they're willing to end an entire relationship because their partner won't/or doesn't want them to cum inside them?
I physically can not cum inside my wife's vagina, because it basically sets her vagina on fire (allergic reaction) and no, it hasn't ended our relationship.
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I physically can not cum inside my wife's vagina, because it basically sets her vagina on fire (allergic reaction) and no, it hasn't ended our relationship.
I wasn't directing that comment to anybody in particular, just to the general comments made in the thread.
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Old 08-03-2009, 04:20 PM   #27 (permalink)
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I have a question, why is it you find the feeling after he 'finishes inside' to be icky? Why the squeamish feelings and need for immediate cleanup?
Unless youre having sex with a diseased gigolo there should be nothing icky about his semen being inside you. Its a naturally wonderful feeling. On the flip side, there is nothing about my sweetie's vagina or its secretions that is 'icky'.

Its my opinion that feelings of these type serve mostly to interfere with the intimacy one can experience without them.
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Ok, I know this post is old, but I ran across it and couldnt' resist. My wife sometimes doesn't like me to come inside her either. Sometimes she is ok, usually if she has had a multiple orgasm. But sometimes, she doesn't want me to finish inside her. If I do, she has to get out of bed etc to pee and cleanup a little (not shower etc.). Doesn't like to get sheets all messy etc.

So, she usually, more than 50% of the time, finishes me by hand, me cumming on my stomach. I have put on a condom, she is ok with that too. She does give me sex when she isn't in the mood, she is only in the mood about 3 times a month. When not in the mood, she usually doesn't want me to finish inside or wear a condom. And, being preggers isn't an issue, since we are both fixed.

Sometimes she pulls me out just when I orgasm and I cum on her bellly, drives me crazy!
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I don't mind it. It just disolves anyway.

Keep some babywipes under the bed and wipe after he finishes.

Finishing inside feels soo good
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Well OP is English, and I get the impression they are pruder than most lol.

But then I don't really think many women actually like cum anyway. I would never expect a potential girlfriend/wife to "like" my cum, thats not realistic.
Your posts just make me laugh. I'd give you my GF's email address, but I don't think you could handle her truth.

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