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I'm trying to get my husband not to finish inside me all the time. It's not a big thing just a personal preference. Usually after shagging I'm in the mood for a cuddle and a snooze but if he finishes in me I'm usually a bit icky and feel compelled to get up and have a wash.
Its just so much easier if and finishes somewhere I can just give a quick wipe. But for some reason it really phases him, he could be just about to come but if he pulls out of me it'll just throw him.
We can manage if I use my mouth but even that takes a bit of effort.It's not just the case of putting him in my mouth I'll actually have to give him oral for quite a while, that's despite the fact that he's usually on the verge of finishing when he pulls out. He'd obviously prefer to keep doing it, but I wonder if its something he could get the hang of.
It's never been an issue in previous relationships, most men if given the option have preferred to finish on my tummy or boobs. but for some reason it's not his thing.
we've been together a while now, it's not a big deal but it would make bed time a lot easier on me.
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Don't really have an "idea" for you; it is obviously something that really works for him. My guess is most guys just want to "finish" - period. Personally I find finishing on the belly or boobs a major turn on. I assume he has tried that and just prefers not to?
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i dont have this problem.. my hubby would rather use a condom or pull out.. but i have to agree... it does make you wanna wash afterwards.. so i dont blame you, i also agree with the others.. becareful what ya wish for.. i dont wanna see you post a new thread "my H left me cause i wouldnt let him cum inside me" ..
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Am one who could give a rip about the "after wet"...I just make sure my butt is on HIS side of the bed....
Actually, funny story. The first time dh and I "did it" at his apartment, in his bed, he goes to his closet and brings out a towel and wants to position it under my hips before the deed.
I just looked him deep in the eyes and said: "SURELY you jest, sir...that towel will be nowhere to be SEEN before I am done with you...."
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Shoot, I got it even worse...
Not only can I not finish in my wife anymore (she somehow became allergic to my cum, I kid you not...she burns/swells/etc if I cum in her...and only in her vagina does she have this reaction)...but my wife also does NOT do the finish in her mouth...that will probably never happen.
So I am relegated to the stomach/boobs...oh, and the occasional butt/back...she does like anal and that area is not allergic...idk, its freaking weird and she is seeing a doctor about it.
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From a strict biological persective, the point of cumming inside you is to colonize your vaginal tract with his sperm to defend against a competitors sperm (real or imagined) to increase his chances of getting you pregnant once you ovulate. By asking him not to cum inside you, you're sending him a strong signal of planning to be unfaithful to him.
Even asking this just once or twice a month will potentially set off the alarm bells.
From a strict guy perspective... LMAO that's cold. If you don't want my cum where ever the heck I want to put it, I'd find someone that's willing to comply. (Though I'm admittedly an uncomplicated person to be in a relationship with, your mileage may vary.)
Anyway... You sure you're actually into him? Just wondering.
Encouraging my husband not to finish inside me 
before the deed. 
