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Old 12-22-2012, 08:32 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Wife and I are in early/mid 30s. When she senses that I am about to ejaculate in her mouth, she tends to move my penis to the very front of her mouth. This diminishes my pleasure, because it feels much better for my entire penis to be deep in her throat while I am experiencing orgasm; and sometimes, in such a shallow position, my penis even hits her teeth. She is a spitter rather than a swallower, so perhaps she thinks that by positioning my penis in such a shallow position, it will be easier for her to expel the semen. First or all, is this really true? And, regardless, how can I convince her that it would be better and easier for me to ejaculate deep in her throat. Perhaps if she collected the semen in a pool in the back of her throat rather than in the front, she would be able to better avoid tasting it? Anyway, does anyone have any pointers on how I can convince her to allow me to ejaculate deeper in her throat? Sometimes, during orgasm/ejaculation, I have succeeded in thrusting hard enough to overcome the position and penetrate deeper in her throat -- and it didn't seem to cause any particular inconvenience or pain to her. But it'd be nicer if she was readier and more willing to take me deeper herself without resistance, rather than my having to push in each time. Any advice would be much appreciated.

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Old 12-22-2012, 08:58 AM   #2 (permalink)
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The back of the tongue is where the tastebuds are, so I imagine it would not taste good to have the semen pooling up back there until you're done and she can get to the bathroom.

Have you talked to her about this? Forcing your way down her throat to get what feels best for you seems like the sneaky way to go about it, when she's going out of her way to sexually pleasure you.
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The back of the tongue is where the tastebuds are, so I imagine it would not taste good to have the semen pooling up back there until you're done and she can get to the bathroom.

Have you talked to her about this? Forcing your way down her throat to get what feels best for you seems like the sneaky way to go about it, when she's going out of her way to sexually pleasure you.
Seems to me that the taste buds are more concentrated in the front of the mouth, not the back. As for the thrusting part, that's really due to being in the heat of the moment and is virtually uncontrollable -- plus it doesn't really seem to bother her when it happens. And it really feels incredible. Just wish it were the default position.
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I wonder why she spits. If it's because she doesn't like the taste, deep-throating during ejaculation is the best way to overcome that. You hardly taste it at all.
How would you feel telling her how much it turns you on when she gives you head and that you appreciate having a wife that does it so well, and then proceed to comment about that one issue like you did here?
Could be a matter-of-fact discussion or a sensual one, you know best what she would be receptive to.
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Not all women are the same. Perhaps she doesn't like the way it feels when you come deep inside her throat? You already said that she spits. Not all semen tastes great. Some can be quite bitter (it can depend on your diet). Or perhaps she feels that she can't breathe when you go so deep and ejaculate in her throat? Maybe she has a small mouth. You should ask her why she repositions your penis in her mouth just before you cum, only she will know for sure. But I can tell you that not every women likes deep throating for very long periods of time (it can tend to get painful to keep your mouth open in the same position) and some don't like their man pushes his penis' deep into their mouths, using their mouth to pleasure himself, instead they want to be the one to pleasure the man by setting the speed and actions themselves, being sexy etc. It could even be that you're actually expecting too much from her/expecting this position too often and she's tired of it?

My suggestion is that you ask her - without sounding too demanding :-)
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Wife and I are in early/mid 30s. When she senses that I am about to ejaculate in her mouth, she tends to move my penis to the very front of her mouth. This diminishes my pleasure, because it feels much better for my entire penis to be deep in her throat while I am experiencing orgasm; and sometimes, in such a shallow position, my penis even hits her teeth. She is a spitter rather than a swallower, so perhaps she thinks that by positioning my penis in such a shallow position, it will be easier for her to expel the semen. First or all, is this really true? And, regardless, how can I convince her that it would be better and easier for me to ejaculate deep in her throat. Perhaps if she collected the semen in a pool in the back of her throat rather than in the front, she would be able to better avoid tasting it? Anyway, does anyone have any pointers on how I can convince her to allow me to ejaculate deeper in her throat? Sometimes, during orgasm/ejaculation, I have succeeded in thrusting hard enough to overcome the position and penetrate deeper in her throat -- and it didn't seem to cause any particular inconvenience or pain to her. But it'd be nicer if she was readier and more willing to take me deeper herself without resistance, rather than my having to push in each time. Any advice would be much appreciated.
My problem was getting my wife to let me ejaculate in her mouth period.The deep thrusting thing wasn't my issue, she just wouldn't allow me to ejaculate in her mouth period...I guess it's something some women will allow and some won't.
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Old 12-22-2012, 08:23 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Delicate? Surely you dont think pushing your penis down your wife's mouth has any delicacy to it do you?

You are pushing yourself into territory that is very problematic. You say she does not mind? She is not saying anything now but i promise you, she is storing this away to digest in time. Women do that frequently.

She may not be able to process that you are so unfeeling or she may be surprised that you are more selfish than she thought or maybe she can't believe that you love her so little that you force things for your pleasure who knows. Do you?

I don't think you should ever put yourself in a position where you are doing things sexually to push past her resistence. It is like running in a minefield on a moonless night.

Suppose your wife ruminates over this and finds your pushing self serving and disrespectful to her. Futhermore, she decides she does not want any length of your penis in her mouth. then what - much bigger problem, no?

Ask her what it is specifically what she dislikes about the finish of a bj. ask it with the thought of her comfort and pleasure in mind not just your own.

That is a win - win. If it is taste or texture or gagging you can both work on ways to make it better for her. If she can make a better job of it by overcoming what she does not like, then it will be better for you too.

.Get explicite consent in all things sexual. It is easy for woman to feel used if the slightest bit of force is used to get more for yourself. It supossed to be mutual, remember.
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Old 12-22-2012, 09:31 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My gawd. Is this REALLY a problem? Like having a new car, a new house, a new job that pays a half million a year, and whining that the grass has a bad patch over in the corner near the back fence.

If that's what she needs to deal with it, then by all means, make the damn sacrifice, ok?
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Delicate? Surely you dont think pushing your penis down your wife's mouth has any delicacy to it do you?

You are pushing yourself into territory that is very problematic. You say she does not mind? She is not saying anything now but i promise you, she is storing this away to digest in time. Women do that frequently.

She may not be able to process that you are so unfeeling or she may be surprised that you are more selfish than she thought or maybe she can't believe that you love her so little that you force things for your pleasure who knows. Do you?

I don't think you should ever put yourself in a position where you are doing things sexually to push past her resistence. It is like running in a minefield on a moonless night.

Suppose your wife ruminates over this and finds your pushing self serving and disrespectful to her. Futhermore, she decides she does not want any length of your penis in her mouth. then what - much bigger problem, no?

Ask her what it is specifically what she dislikes about the finish of a bj. ask it with the thought of her comfort and pleasure in mind not just your own.

That is a win - win. If it is taste or texture or gagging you can both work on ways to make it better for her. If she can make a better job of it by overcoming what she does not like, then it will be better for you too.

.Get explicite consent in all things sexual. It is easy for woman to feel used if the slightest bit of force is used to get more for yourself. It supossed to be mutual, remember.

Thanks very much for your response. My "forceful thrusting" is nothing more than what is natural and inevitable during orgasm; virtually any woman would expect a man to move intensely while he is ejaculating. Obviously, I can hardly be expected to confine my movements to a few millimeters in such circumstances. The give-and-take inherent in sex is not grounds for calling something non-consensual.

In any event, what I was really seeing was insight as to why a woman might prefer to keep the penis toward the front of her mouth during ejaculation. At first blush, I might have thought that allowing the semen to pool at the BACK of the mouth would ameliorate taste issues. Knowing whether the preference for confining the penis to the front of the mouth is related, say, to taste issues, gagging issues, or other issues would be useful to me in deciding how, if at all, to discuss it with my wife.

Again, I appreciate your taking the time to respond to my post.

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Yes.... it's related to taste issues, gagging issues, or other issues. One of which may be that when you push toward the back of her throat, it almost forces a swallow (which she apparently does not want to do).

But only your wife knows which.

Plus, if you are holding her head when you push, then it IS force... even if it is unintended and over-excited. If you are not holding her head, then she could just move when you try to go deeper.

DISCUSS it. Why put your penis into a mouth you don't want to talk to?
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Thanks very much for your response. My "forceful thrusting" is nothing more than what is natural and inevitable during orgasm; virtually any woman would expect a man to move intensely while he is ejaculating. Obviously, I can hardly be expected to confine my movements to a few millimeters in such circumstances. The give-and-take inherent in sex is not grounds for calling something non-consensual.

In any event, what I was really seeing was insight as to why a woman might prefer to keep the penis toward the front of her mouth during ejaculation. At first blush, I might have thought that allowing the semen to pool at the BACK of the mouth would ameliorate taste issues. Knowing whether the preference for confining the penis to the front of the mouth is related, say, to taste issues, gagging issues, or other issues would be useful to me in deciding how, if at all, to discuss it with my wife.

Again, I appreciate your taking the time to respond to my post.
She has to control her gag response, which is difficult when you have something being thrust into your throat, as well as her fear of being choked by a sudden gush of bitter tasting fluid.
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He didn't say it tastes bitter.
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Obviously, I can hardly be expected to confine my movements to a few millimeters in such circumstances.
Quite right - A gentleman has a primal instinct to deeply nail the receptive object as he ejaculates.

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I wish I could provide some good advice but Im barely get bj's as it is. I couldnt imagine thrusting inside her mouth...getting to her throat...ya right. That's a dream.

Just talk to her. If she's open enough to let you deep throat she'll probably be receptive.
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My wife doesn't love giving me BJ's but does it because she knows I love it. When we first started dating, I remember her giving me a BJ and when I was close to orgasming, I told her, I'm going to go soon, want me to pull out and use your hands? She said no, orgasm in my mouth, so from that point to this day, I always orgasm in her mouth. Most of me is in her mouth by the way and she always swallows. I know she doesn't love the taste, so I asked her, what can I do? She tells me chocolate almond milk on her nightstand, so every time she gives me a BJ, I have her chocolate drink right beside her. Immediately after her swallowing, she has her drink and its not that bad then. Also, having a lot of fruit 24 hours prior helps and eating little to no protein as well. This is what she told me. I let her control the entire BJ, I don't use my hands on her head and she is more relaxed that way. She knows I like it deep inside her mouth, so she lets me do that, with her in control so its comfortable.
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