Re: My wife doesn't want sex with me anymore
I am in the same boat as you - sexless marriage - and I am a woman.
I can't tell you why she doesn't want sex, if I knew what causes that, I wouldn't be in my own situation :-) however, a couple of questions:
Do you know what turns her on and what she enjoys? Do you focus suffiently on her needs when you're trying to get sex? Do you always have the same strategy for initiating sex (if yes, then perhaps try something else).
I have many girlfriends who are not interested in sex and they discuss their husbands at length. Some of their suggestions:
Some of the women find that by simply helping more around the house- if you aren't already- will get her more willing.
Another option is to ask your parents/her parents/friends or family to watch your son for a night (or a weekend if you can). While she is out dropping him off, organise a wonderful picknic on the floor, scatter some cushions about, buy some finger foods, nice wine, chocolates, strawberries (great for getting romance going), focus on the foods you know she loves. In other words, give her the most amazing, romantic date-night of her life, rekindle your love, romance her. (if she often has sleepless nights, make sure you start the evening off early, so she doesn't get sleepy after half an hour). While you eat, make sure you keep eye contact, smile at her, touch her gently (arm, hand, leg) in a non sexual, but sensual way. Ask her about her day. Listen to her. Destress her by giving her a good long sensual massage, or (if she doesn't enjoy those) run your hands through her hair or just hold her hand and chat.
Another of my gal pals told us of a story that helped her get in the mood:You run a bubblebath for both of you (if you have a jacuzzi, use that) - with candles lit in the bathroom- if she likes bubbly, pour yourselves a glass each and lie there talking (not about your son or work but about the two of you, how she makes you feel - women love talking about feelings, and hearing how much they mean to you). Make sure there is lots of eye contact, smile at her (don't spend hours in there or you'll both end up falling asleep in the tub). When you get out, put a big towl around her, gently dry her and kiss her, cuddle her. Make her feel like she is the most stunning woman in the world. complement her. Don't push yourself on her sexually, don't act like any of this is FOR sex (because it is not, it's about romance at this point) don't beg for sex, and don't even touch her sexually. If you give her enough attention in sensual ways, chances are SHE will ask YOU for sex.
I have heard directly from women who don't want sex, that these types of tactic works on them.
If nothing else, at least she will feel more special and appreciated and less stressed.
I hope it works for you.