Re: husbands fetish is ruining our marriage.
Don't have kids until this issue is resolved. He's obsessed. It sounds like an addiction. It's great and all that you seem to be cool with him wearing the stuff. Your problem is that he has gone overboard. He seems addicted. Hours and hours in the bathroom taking photos? Obsessing over the lighting and not you? This has overstepped the bounds of really liking something into a twisted fanaticism. If this is what 98% of your fights are about and he's not changing because either he can't or doesn't think it's a problem, then I'm afraid you didn't know your husband and his fetish well enough when you got married. There isn't room for you and his fetish in this marriage. It has taken it over like a disease that only one of you sees. I think he has a choice - either recognize and get help for his fetish which is endangering this marriage, cut it back to a few times a month, like the other poster suggested, with no sneaking off to the bathroom to spend time with himself and not you, or you have to leave.