12-31-2012, 02:01 PM
Join Date: Dec 2012
| | Re: Limits to teasing in intimacy
Ah, we also have a collection of brushes, feathery things and other assorted items - soft scarves, satin ribbon, soft bristle brushes as well as a blindfold to explore the wonderful world of sensation. Some things are subtle like using a rose petal. Some things are "peel her off the ceiling" response like an electric toothbrush on the underside of toes. The fun is in being very focused on one another and finding just the right combination of sensual moments with everything in the play box including use of fingers, lips, tongue, teeth, hair and so on.
It is awakening and using all the senses and being very in tune with your partner to build the intensity.
I guess my query is really about limits and how we go about exploring those, expanding them, and testing them in a loving and intimate way with the goal of expanding the intimate sexual experience for both.
It is a delicate path to tread and ScarletBegonias comment about the possibility of teasing making one feel small and insecure is a real possibility that needs to be taken into consideration.
I think for us, this sort of intimate adult play demands that we pay close attention to one another and are sensitive to how each responds. Those responses can be small like the sudden appearance of goosebumps or the soft, sudden intake of breath or they can be large like an loud shriek or instantly kicking out a leg or otherwise thrashing or arching off the bed.
Our use of a safe word allows shouting Stop! while really meaning Don't Stop!
When is it too much? When is it not enough? When is it just right?