Hi! New here. I've been reading threads about how vibrators and new exciting things help out in having a better relationship. But I'm afraid it doesn't apply on us. A little bit complicated.
I'm 21 years old, my partner just turned 23. We have a 2 year old kid whom we love very much.
Yes, I know it's a bit too early for me to have a kid but hey, who doesn't know somebody who's young and has a kid these days?
We've been together for 4 years (the 2 years of courting isn't counted though), and had great sex 2 years ago. Now we. Or rather I, only have it once?twice? a month. And she doesn't even want it.
I really don't understand why is her behavior like this. It's like when our kid was born, her libido malfunctioned.
We've been having this issue for a year already, and I've always been questioning her about it and it pisses her off.
"Don't you enjoy it anymore?" "What do I need to do to make you enjoy it?" "Why do you keep holding back?"
She's always "I don't want to do it anymore..yet. I want us to get married first"
I respect that decision but in order for us to get married, I need a parents advise which my parents won't give because they believe that because we're young, we might find other people to our liking in the long run.
I am perfectly sure that she's the girl that I want to marry. Not because of emotions and butterflies on my tummy but It's been my decision ever since I told myself to.
But the no sex is just killing me. Is it my problem that when I see her in shorts and shirt with no bra it turns me on?
Awhile ago I was at her house (we aren't staying together yet, but our parents are all good with that) and she got on top of me. She was all lovey dovey and I was too. But then I started asking for sex. Begging to be exact. Still a no. It's always a no.
I said fine then lets dry hump instead, still a no. She went to sleep, I waited for her to go to sleep. Got my condom and tried to put "it" inside her while sleeping. she woke up when I was almost finished so I jacked it off while she was curled up with a "you don't respect me anymore" face. I told her beforehand that I really couldn't resist her body even though she says she's fat. Even though she's not.
This has happend atleast 10 times? Not the penetration thing but I always touch her when she sleeps. I feel like a pig. But c'mon, I ain't gettin' any for the past few months. Yes we are not married but I'd like to think so and I have plans to do so, plus we have a freakin kid. It makes me feel like I'm entitled to something but is deprived of.
In a tight and confused situation here, hope you guys could help. Thank you.
I'm 21 years old, my partner just turned 23. We have a 2 year old kid whom we love very much.
Yes, I know it's a bit too early for me to have a kid but hey, who doesn't know somebody who's young and has a kid these days?
We've been together for 4 years (the 2 years of courting isn't counted though), and had great sex 2 years ago. Now we. Or rather I, only have it once?twice? a month. And she doesn't even want it.
I really don't understand why is her behavior like this. It's like when our kid was born, her libido malfunctioned.
We've been having this issue for a year already, and I've always been questioning her about it and it pisses her off.
"Don't you enjoy it anymore?" "What do I need to do to make you enjoy it?" "Why do you keep holding back?"
She's always "I don't want to do it anymore..yet. I want us to get married first"
I respect that decision but in order for us to get married, I need a parents advise which my parents won't give because they believe that because we're young, we might find other people to our liking in the long run.
I am perfectly sure that she's the girl that I want to marry. Not because of emotions and butterflies on my tummy but It's been my decision ever since I told myself to.
But the no sex is just killing me. Is it my problem that when I see her in shorts and shirt with no bra it turns me on?
Awhile ago I was at her house (we aren't staying together yet, but our parents are all good with that) and she got on top of me. She was all lovey dovey and I was too. But then I started asking for sex. Begging to be exact. Still a no. It's always a no.
I said fine then lets dry hump instead, still a no. She went to sleep, I waited for her to go to sleep. Got my condom and tried to put "it" inside her while sleeping. she woke up when I was almost finished so I jacked it off while she was curled up with a "you don't respect me anymore" face. I told her beforehand that I really couldn't resist her body even though she says she's fat. Even though she's not.
This has happend atleast 10 times? Not the penetration thing but I always touch her when she sleeps. I feel like a pig. But c'mon, I ain't gettin' any for the past few months. Yes we are not married but I'd like to think so and I have plans to do so, plus we have a freakin kid. It makes me feel like I'm entitled to something but is deprived of.
In a tight and confused situation here, hope you guys could help. Thank you.