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Old 01-23-2013, 02:44 PM   #871 (permalink)
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If you have a brother, one which apparently your mom adores greatly, how are you getting everything? Did they cut him out of the will? If so, how is he so highly adored yet given nothing? Seems contradictory in my opinion.

And if they gave you your education (which I assume means the college you are in now) AND $400,000 how are you having any financial difficulties?
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If you have a brother, one which apparently your mom adores greatly, how are you getting everything? Did they cut him out of the will? If so, how is he so highly adored yet given nothing? Seems contradictory in my opinion.

And if they gave you your education (which I assume means the college you are in now) AND $400,000 how are you having any financial difficulties?

No, no no they did NOT give me 400k! I wish. That's the total average cost of my college/law school bill.

They don't give me spending money, I have a job for that. The "plus" was not meant to be an "and" rather a 400k+.

And my brother is still in the will but he can't get any of the money until he is 30, I'm in charge of it (once I turn 21) until then in the event of their death. My brother doesn't get the money until he is a lot older because frankly, he's exhibited some rather dangerous behavior (can you say reform school?).

No, we're both still in the will. "Everything" is to go to both of us.
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Old 01-23-2013, 03:02 PM   #873 (permalink)
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Thanks for clarifying and my apologizes for misreading the + sign.
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Old 01-23-2013, 03:07 PM   #875 (permalink)
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She hasn't finished law school yet, so she may not be quite sinister enough.

Edit: I may have been mistaken.
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I've considered it but actually, they have the potential to make a few more million dollars before they die. Father just got a promotion and Mother is thinking about starting to practice law again.

It'd be stupid to kill them now.

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Old 01-23-2013, 03:09 PM   #877 (permalink)
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And my brother is still in the will but he can't get any of the money until he is 30, I'm in charge of it (once I turn 21) until then in the event of their death. My brother doesn't get the money until he is a lot older because frankly, he's exhibited some rather dangerous behavior (can you say reform school?).

No, we're both still in the will. "Everything" is to go to both of us.
The dilema of wanting kids to have more than we had growing up. Give too freely early on and then resent them for not appreciating it later on. Yours and your brother's situation is common among children of new money.
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The dilema of wanting kids to have more than we had growing up. Give too freely early on and then resent them for not appreciating it later on. Yours and your brother's situation is common among children of new money.
My father shared a bedroom with four brothers growing up. He took out loans for college and got his company to pay for his grad school.

It's less that I don't appreciate the money and more that I don't appreciate them.

They weren't great parents. They were great ATM machines.

ALSO: I LOVE YOUR SIGNATURE. I could not possibly agree with you more. My parents would always laugh their asses off whenever I brought home an "I tried" medal. In life, there is no prize for trying.
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In life, there is no prize for trying.
Wrong. Most of the relationships here that have troubles would be fixed if one person or the other tried harder.
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Mrs. Lyris, are you a professional counsellor or psychiatrist?

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Wrong. Most of the relationships here that have troubles would be fixed if one person or the other tried harder.
The participation trophy thing is kind of a joke, though.

Lmfao.

Go try to get a good job having graduated at the bottom of your class from a mediocre college and tell them "But I tried."

It totally sends the wrong message to kids. There is a 1st place in life and sugar coating that serves no purpose.

Life is going to give everyone the memo sooner or later.
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Old 01-23-2013, 03:28 PM   #882 (permalink)
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I do agree to an extent. That said, I always tell my kids that as long as they try their best, that's all I ask, because from what I've gleaned from life, those who try their best and those who finish first are often the same person.
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The participation trophy thing is kind of a joke, though.

Lmfao.

Go try to get a good job having graduated at the bottom of your class from a mediocre college and tell them "But I tried."

It totally sends the wrong message to kids. There is a 1st place in life and sugar coating that serves no purpose.

Life is going to give everyone the memo sooner or later.
I have gone from not even finishing high school to owning a business, qualifications aren't the only way to get on in life.
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I have gone from not even finishing high school to owning a business, qualifications aren't the only way to get on in life.
Oh this I know.

But the participation trophy basically tells people it's okay to come in last, you still get a reward.

When in reality, you don't.

Send the kid home without a trophy and I bet you if he really wants one, he'll try harder next time.
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Wrong. Most of the relationships here that have troubles would be fixed if one person or the other tried harder.
I don't think she was referring to relationships. My signature certainly isn't.
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