But then, we started to work on our relationship - specifically, communication, and some serious honesty. And now, it's once or twice a day... every day - in some fashion. And it's far less about a sex drive, then simply WANTING to be locked in each other's arms, feeling each other, kissing, pleasuring, holding, and just having that soul-baring depth of intimacy.
Even if you don't have a big sex drive, the need for wanting to be locked in intimate embrace is more than enough to bring you together.
SO and I both agree we are enjoying the "best sex of our lives". This is not just based on the physical side of our love making, it is based on the intimacy and connection we share. My body craves his and his mine, it is like we were made to be together.
The thought of his arms around me and our bodies wrapped around each other thrills me.
We have particularly open discussions about our sex life, we feel safe with each other and there is a huge amount of mutual respect.
I so resonate with what is spoken here...... even though 4 yrs ago...I entered Cougar mode... just couldn't get enough, LUST
was written all over that phase... I seriously cared more
about his aggressive desire than his LOVE...even telling him this..... though that kinda turned him on.... those Hormones was messing with my head !
This has calmed considerably....now we are on the same plateau... how my husband handled me during THAT mismatched high drive time......though how we opened everything up... I was completely vulnerable.. and we communicated & worked through some of the silent resentment he was holding towards me (in our past when he wanted more sex ).... I could not have asked for more... I owe him the world.
There is just some kind of euphoric high we get from just being in each others arms...working it all up....the drive today is lit by the emotional
At least, this is MY experience. I had no idea how much my sex drive had decreased over the years, with having had it not more often than every few weeks or months. I started taking some natural "enhancers" (no, not the pills to "make you bigger" crapola) doing some exercises and other things (and they help) just so I can be "up" and we can have more of that intimate time.
I remember your posts,
..you've come a long way in a short time ...the OldGeezer must be feeling pretty young these days!
Originally Posted by oldgeezer: Lust, it isn't... It's a wholly different thing than I had when we met. Nor is it just a physical need.
There should be a lot more discussion of what mature age sexuality is and isn't, and it seems to me that if we men understood it, there'd be a lot less "mid life crisis" problems.