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Old 01-20-2013, 07:52 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Sex without foreplay is so boring. It's not really that satisfying. Is it this way for others too?
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Sex without foreplay is so boring. It's not really that satisfying. Is it this way for others too?
Sex without foreplay? It would be like eating a raw chicken - possible, perhaps, but not something I would be enthusiastic about.
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Old 01-20-2013, 08:40 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Yes, it's very empty. When she isn't in the mood, but feels like she should just give in, I consider it pity sex, and it's a turn off to me. I've done it a few times, but It isn't much better than taking care of things myself.
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Unless its a quickie I would never want sex without foreplay. To me that would be awful.
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Old 01-20-2013, 12:13 PM   #5 (permalink)
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'just say no' to highly paradoxical behavior.

Generally speaking sex without foreplay is a variation of 'hurry up and finish'.

Imagine I tell my wife I am going to make her favorite dinner. We sit down to eat and I eat super fast and silently and then radiate impatience at her through body language.

I don't know what your wives are like but mine would react very badly to that and inflict some damage on me for doing it.
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Old 01-20-2013, 12:18 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Sometimes I would like a lot of foreplay and sometimes a quickie is fine as well. It all depends on the mood, amount of time, are you sleepy, etc. But overall, some foreplay I do like. When my wife licks the back of my neck, cuddled up to me, drives me wild and hard in seconds but she doesn't like it when I lick her neck passionately. Or her soft feet, same thing. Or her soft hands, same again.
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I don't think I've ever had sex without foreplay.
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Unless its a quickie I would never want sex without foreplay. To me that would be awful.

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Sex without foreplay is like playing baseball without a ball. No fun at all for me.
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Generally speaking sex without foreplay is a variation of 'hurry up and finish'.

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I have heard that multiple times. Wife likes to have sex, but she doesn't like it to last too long.
I have also heard the "we can do it, but it needs to be quick" That basically means, no foreplay. I would be fine with no foreplay if it were in situations outside of the bed, say in a place where there is risk at getting caught and there isn't time for foreplay. But in bed (which is where sex almost always happens) come on.
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Not for us last night. I have a cold so there was no kissing and very little touching. We used one of our favorite positions: she lies on her back on the edge of the bed on a liberator wedge with her legs on my shoulders. She uses a vibrator on her clit. We both had amazing orgasms...mine shortly after hers. So sex without foreplay is not always boring. It also helped that it had been a week! Sometimes you are so hot and horny you just go for it!
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Old 01-20-2013, 05:41 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Depends on who you ask.

I'm not a big fan, but the wife is. She enjoys sex, and it's not about "hurry up and get it over with". She just doesn't care for foreplay. Or at least her definition of foreplay is very different from most.

So some folks like it that way.
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Old 01-20-2013, 07:32 PM   #13 (permalink)
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where are these guys ?

my hubby would have liked to just do the sex bit... or so it appeared to me anyway. i was always a very wet person who only took a very shgort time to be ready and he loved that, hardly any foreplay, i used to complain that just because i am wet doesnt mean i am ready ??

i would have liked more foreplay, i told him this many many times, but he just wanted sex ??
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my hubby would have liked to just do the sex bit... or so it appeared to me anyway. i was always a very wet person who only took a very shgort time to be ready and he loved that, hardly any foreplay, i used to complain that just because i am wet doesnt mean i am ready ??

i would have liked more foreplay, i told him this many many times, but he just wanted sex ??
You might as well have told him you wanted him to build a rocket ship. Foreplay is such an ambiguous word and means something different to people. I think specific things actions are required when asking for foreplay.
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You might as well have told him you wanted him to build a rocket ship. Foreplay is such an ambiguous word and means something different to people. I think specific things actions are required when asking for foreplay.
i explained in detail to him what i wanted, it made no difference:scratc hhead:
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