He doesnt want sex with me but with others
I don’t understand, my husband of 3 years, we have been together for 8 years, doesn’t want sex with me. The last time we had sex was about 8 or 9 months ago. In the last 3 years maybe 3 or 4 times. When we first started dating sex was great and we had sex all the time, I’m now 52 and he is 51, We both don’t look or act our age. I understand that sex would slow down but stop? The biggest problem is that he had an affair for the first year of our marriage. I was going to leave but we both decided we would try and work this out, sex just got worse with us. Now he looks at porn and I guess he masturbates, he doesn’t want to talk about it. I have tried everything from dressing sexy and my asking and begging for sex, all he says is I’m tired. Not tonight, I have a headache etc.!
Last night I saw where he was on backpage.com and Craig’s list looking at the escorts. I’m sure that will be next, I also know that he talks to other woman. He tells me he loves me and he’s not sure what’s wrong with him, he’s been to the doctor and they can find nothing. I’m sure he has problems with ED but he doesn’t try anything with me, I love him but a roommate is not what I was looking for. Is this ever going to get better? Is there hope for this marriage?
I love him with all my heart but I don’t understand,I have no self-esteem left. I am starting to feel so empty. We are good friends and do things together but there is no sexual intimacy or even just intimacy
Last edited by laura987; 01-23-2013 at 03:45 AM.