01-23-2013, 05:52 PM
Join Date: Aug 2012
| | Re: He doesnt want sex with me but with others
Originally Posted by laura987
I donít understand, my husband of 3 years, we have been together for 8 years, doesnít want sex with me. The last time we had sex was about 8 or 9 months ago. In the last 3 years maybe 3 or 4 times. When we first started dating sex was great and we had sex all the time, Iím now 52 and he is 51, We both donít look or act our age. I understand that sex would slow down but stop? The biggest problem is that he had an affair for the first year of our marriage. I was going to leave but we both decided we would try and work this out, sex just got worse with us. Now he looks at porn and I guess he masturbates, he doesnít want to talk about it. I have tried everything from dressing sexy and my asking and begging for sex, all he says is Iím tired. Not tonight, I have a headache etc.!
Last night I saw where he was on backpage.com and Craigís list looking at the escorts. Iím sure that will be next, I also know that he talks to other woman. He tells me he loves me and heís not sure whatís wrong with him, heís been to the doctor and they can find nothing. Iím sure he has problems with ED but he doesnít try anything with me, I love him but a roommate is not what I was looking for. Is this ever going to get better? Is there hope for this marriage?
I love him with all my heart but I donít understand,I have no self-esteem left. I am starting to feel so empty. We are good friends and do things together but there is no sexual intimacy or even just intimacy
He likes "strange."
When you first met, you were new & exciting to him = lots of sex. His actions - cheating & Craigslist escorts show you that he is unable to be a faithful partner & gets bored very easily with one woman.
I'm sure he loves you very much as a good person, friend & roommate. You can always try marriage counseling as a last resort.