Accused of being gay
Shortly after finishing college my girlfriend at the time got a job cooking in a restaurant that happened to be owned by two gay men. I was underemployed at the time and a few months after she began, she told me they needed a bartender and asked if I wanted the job. I'd always wanted the experience of being a bartender and this was my only chance so I took it. Of course, I was around a largely gay crowd. It didn't offend me and I frequently found I could meet girls there as well when they came with their gay friends.
Fast forward a few years. My first prostate exam. I had no idea what it was. The doctor put his finger in my butt, touched my prostate, then said everything was fine. However, once he touched it, it created a sensation similar to ejaculation but without the whole body climax.
Fast forward again and a past girlfriend had gone down on me and she put her finger in my butt on my prostate and the combination was awesome. Very enjoyable.
Now I'm married (to a different girl than the ones above) and one day she was asking me to tell her what I like. I told her about the prostate experience at the doctor's office but left out the blowjob from the prior girlfriend so as not to hurt my wife's feelings.
Now my wife thinks I'm hiding repressed gay feelings and is repulsed by the idea. In fights she frequently brings up the topic of her not having a **** and therefore she can't satisfy me. I know there's nothing wrong with being gay, but when someone gets a notion about you, well, it's hard to change their mind. I've never had a problem in the bedroom with her. I've never looked at gay porn. I don't think about guys, etc...
I'm not looking for a trick or anything like that to prove to her I'm not gay, but I just get tired of having to remind her of the fact over and over, so I'm wondering what you would do if you were me in this situation. And how common around here is the incorporation of prostate-play in the bedroom?