But when I ask, she always moans and groans and says she doesn't want to (not even on my birthday!
Not even a birthday BJ, that is just harsh.
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Anyway, all you guys who have wives who love sending you to cloud 9 are SO LUCKY!!! Don't lose it.
I know....I have to honestly say that I think most people have the potential to really enjoy the genitals of their partner if they let themselves be open to it. As in "she really wants to but thinks (fill in the blank) so she is repressing her natural urge to just grab it and go to town."
Well, take it for what it's worth, but for me BJ's or sex happen 100 percent of the time I tell her it's going to happen.*
Seems just the act of being a "bad boy" turns her on like crazy.
Granted, behind closed doors my wife and I have a very old-fashioned relationship. I dominate, she consents, we both love it and we both seem to stay always "turned on" when we're together.
And no, I'm not some caveman jerk from the dark ages. Outside the bedroom anyone would see me and assume I was completely "whipped."
The privilege and responsibility of "100 percent anytime access" also has the not so obvious affect of keeping me very in tune with our emotional intimacy, and makes me just fawn all over her all the time.
And surprise surprise, her sex drive tends to be probably twice what mine is.
Oh, I've been married to her for over 20 years, never cheated (why would I)?
We are the same word for word save for one thing. Every once in a while wife gets a bit out of hand behaviorally. Hey I am guilty of it as well - this is just a function of being a strong willed passionate person. And when she does, then I do the bad boy thing outside the bedroom. But other then that, I simply go with the flow outside the bedroom and I run the show inside the bedroom. As for the emotionally in tune I second/third that comment.
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Well, take it for what it's worth, but for me BJ's or sex happen 100 percent of the time I tell her it's going to happen.*
Seems just the act of being a "bad boy" turns her on like crazy.
Granted, behind closed doors my wife and I have a very old-fashioned relationship. I dominate, she consents, we both love it and we both seem to stay always "turned on" when we're together.
And no, I'm not some caveman jerk from the dark ages. Outside the bedroom anyone would see me and assume I was completely "whipped."
The privilege and responsibility of "100 percent anytime access" also has the not so obvious affect of keeping me very in tune with our emotional intimacy, and makes me just fawn all over her all the time.
And surprise surprise, her sex drive tends to be probably twice what mine is.
Oh, I've been married to her for over 20 years, never cheated (why would I)?
Maybe your wife just has difficulty initiating this. She may get embarrassed to talk about it. It might be better to just non-verbally ask 4 a bj. Maybe a 69? Also it could help to talk to her while she's at it. (if you can speak, lol) Tell her how much your enjoying it and how you can't wait to have her pull you into the finish line etc... maybe she's unsure of herself and just needs some sexy encouragement. For me it's kind of a game I play with myself... every moan, shudder, and yell are points in my personal video game. lol The more out of control he gets, the more I love it. Show her you LOVE IT.
@Trader, aw that is awesome that u love to go downtown, I only get lucky like 2 times a month, my H is more of a ...lets skip the foreplay and get to the main attraction type of dude lol
I love gvn BJ's especially during "that time of the month" hubby gets a guaranteed BJ for sure, I MUST keep him happy of course
I dont know why some women dont enjoy giving them
women KNOW how good it is for US to recieve so why not GIVE just as much u know?
I love to see how happy I make him during it, I do it like 4 times a month for him , and he still complains I dont do it enough I need to step it up.
Try talking to your wife, tell her how much you would love it if she did it to you once in a while, tell her u will warn her before you cm so she doesnt feel anxiety that you may cm in her mouth etc. I am sure if u talk to her, she should be able to help, good luck and keep us informed
yes there MUST be a discussion about the cum issue. if she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth she needs to tell you and she'll have to trust you to warn her.
Talk to her tell her your desires,be open with her.If she flat refuses.DO NOT STOP PLEASING HER.I know its a knee jerk reaction to stop doing Oral to her if she will not to you.
However please understand something.Some women do not do this because of a past sexual assault.Could you give head to your wife if you were raped by a woman?Its a death by association type thing for some ladies.
Some women have a weak gag reflex.Some do not like the taste of cum.Both of these can be worked around though.Some guys....I hate to say it,but they fail to wash their tools because of being uncircumcised.HINT- pull the turtle out of the shell wash his face and neck,once turtle is clean put him back into his shell.Nothing turns people off more then a bad case of BO and this case is no exception.
The good news is that if none of these above problems exist or are "fixed" most women will willingly want you orally.IMO
I have read that you can do certain things to subconsciously promote her into wanting to do this.
I have a link to it if you want it I can give it but I do not promote mind games with or manipulation of a person.The technique I have read about could be misunderstood as playing mind games or manipulative.
However this is discussed in the first paragraph of the article.
Quote-"First of all, you must have the mindset that you are not getting a woman to do something. Instead, you are giving her the gift of extraordinary pleasure and empowering her as a woman."
IGNORE the prompt to this >>>>> "download SEX IQ" .....I do not know what those links do,but the info on that above page works.
Also IGNORE the comment on down the page about "She doesn’t have threesomes".Like I say there is some good info on this page,but its from a "players" or "bad boy" point of view.While it can be used with wonderful results for both man and woman in marriage,its best to not abuse it.
The key here is "You must communicate with her sexual-subconscious mind in the bedroom." This works wonderfully,its the pillow talk after the sex that this works best.Read the article to understand why.
What you need to do/understand is.........Quote-"You can turn a oral into a “positive stimulus” in a woman’s brain/mind."
Another link to the same blog....http://1stop4femaleorgasms.com/blog/ this is the main blog body.Do a page search on "The Couch Massage"
I do not want to go into detail here,just do a page search and look for the article about you masturbating your wife on the couch with her head in your lap....at the appropriate time you will attempt to suggest oral from her.Its based on Pavlovian Conditioning.
I am still working on finding this all out myself,with Pavlovian Conditioning I am trying to addict my wife to orgasm's with me.....And yes she knows about it,I do not want to be accused of being manipulative.
I would also like to point out that I have posted about a technique to please a woman in another post,I actually stumbled upon these above and below links while searching on enhancing the female orgasm,but had already discovered the G-spot technique only to find it again in this blog.
There is NOTHING and I mean NOTHING as erotic as looking into your lovers eyes as you "O" into their mouth and knowing they want you there with all their heart and soul.
It is a spiritual bonding.
@TWEAK-always love ur posts lol, but my H doesnt like me to look at his face while he has an O, he says he looks terrible while having an O, he is so silly..haha..we still have O's together at the same time so thats always good..dam TWEAK u know a LOT! thats awesome ur wife must be a happy camper
I try hard to make her happy.I really do.
My desire to make my woman happy is also the manifestation of my fear's.
The fear if I was not good the woman would stray and cheat,was one factor.In fact I had MANY girlfriends that dumped me because they thought I was a "Good Boy".I always treated them nice and did not try groping and pressuring them to have sex.I was a virgin,I wanted it to be special.However there was a Sexual Man Beast in me wanting to ravish them.I repressed it for fear of being a lousy lover.
Also remember,I am in the average guy department when it comes to size.I always thought,as do many men,size is what its all about.I am confident enough in my masculinity to say that size can matter a bit,but it is not the whole picture.If your a lousy lover,no amount of being long or thick can help you.
If you are not good in bed,you need to learn.Reading as I have done greatly helps in this department.Having a assertive woman,that knows what it takes to get here there does to.
Being driven by the desire that even if you have a small penis,you can be a very good lover in bed,is what I am talking about.Guys need to learn to use EVERYTHING to their advantage in this department. Tongue,lips,suction,hands,Fingers....learn to make love with your BODY AND MIND.Learn to use what God gave you and not what you wish you had.
I struggle within myself with the size debate,alot less as I have gotten older and wiser.My wife was a virgin when we married,so while her view may be narrower since she has not had any other man,she says that I am long and thick enough.In fact sometimes I actually bump her cervix when we get going hard.
Now keep in mind my wife is a nurse in training and has given bed baths to guys.She has seen a couple whoppers.However she says that I am a perfect fit in her.In truth,I have had toys that were anywhere from a 1 inch to 7 inches longer then myself.She cannot comfortably fit much more then my length in her,so all is good.
Sorry to hijack the thread a bit,I got to talking and just had to finish my thoughts.
I love looking into my wife's eyes as I "lift off",but you know for the longest time she would not look me in the eyes while I was "Downtown" on her.In recent years,some of her inhibitions have been cast aside,she will now grab the back of my head and push my face into her when she wants more pressure.She will also look me straight in the eyes now as she cums.Its great.
Learning to "read" your lover is a key component in great sex.
@TWEAK-always love ur posts lol, but my H doesnt like me to look at his face while he has an O, he says he looks terrible while having an O, he is so silly..
I'm the same way. I have trouble having one if he's watching my face. I don't know why.
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Hmm, well I have to say a bj is great every now and then. I just don't need one to go down on SO. I am more about pleasing her in as many ways as I can. Now the thing I don't understand is (this for the ladies) when she orgasms when I go down she says it tickles from time to time. Then she makes me stop. Sex doesn't tickle. So do any of the women have that happen to them? The tickling sensation after orgasm when given oral?
Had to reply because I get this SO BAD!!! Once I have orgasmed sometimes my man keeps on going, I think maybe shooting for multiples and it tickles SO much that I literally SHOVE him away and collapse in fits of giggles... it can take a while for the sensations to settle down enough to even move on to intercourse. I cannot explain why it happens but after orgasm the sensation completely changes.
The tickling sensation is because of your Orgasm,it makes the area hyper sensitive.Usually around the clitoris area.
My wife is the same way,however sometimes I can hold her down and get her to cum again with my mouth.It is the same way with a Blow Job,I cum in her mouth and get super sensitive and it tickles.
If you stick your fingers into her vagina while you are licking and after she has came,you can then play with her g-spot,the nerves are the same from her clitoris to the g-spot/skene's glands.The difference is that the g-spot is not ticklish.You can,after priming her orally,give multiple O's this way.
Being super clean helps - we both always shower and brush our teeth just before bed. Fresh and clean is sexy...
And eye contact during liftoff is great.
I prefer to come during intercourse because it lasts 30-40 seconds - oral is fun for foreplay but when she finishes me that way - the O is only about 1/2 as long. The intensity is the same, but generally don't want to cut the duration of the rapture in half.
So we only go that route when she wants to play and is broken in some fashion and can't have intercourse....
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The tickling sensation is because of your Orgasm,it makes the area hyper sensitive.Usually around the clitoris area.
My wife is the same way,however sometimes I can hold her down and get her to cum again with my mouth.It is the same way with a Blow Job,I cum in her mouth and get super sensitive and it tickles.
If you stick your fingers into her vagina while you are licking and after she has came,you can then play with her g-spot,the nerves are the same from her clitoris to the g-spot/skene's glands.The difference is that the g-spot is not ticklish.You can,after priming her orally,give multiple O's this way.
Re: I love to eat it, she hates to suck 
I need to step it up.
