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Old 07-19-2009, 10:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Need tips for giving the best BJ EVER!!!!

He doesn't complain...loves it when I do it...but I'm sure there are improvements that can be made.

My only concern is that he doesn't climax more quickly with a BJ. In past relationships, the guy has always climaxed very quickly from that. I mean, my H is very good at holding it....but I would love to be able to do it so well that I can have control over when he climaxes....I want to be so good at it that he CAN'T hold it! Make sense???

Any tips/advise would be very helpful.
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For me the best, most exciting part of a BJ is when it is done with great enthusiasm.
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enthusiasm lots of eye contact and use of hands to i think if we enjoy giving they cant help enjoy recieving my husband loves me to look at him as much as possible whilst i give him a blo job .
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My H definitely loves the enthusiam factor. I honestly love giving him bj's, and he loves knowing that its not just a "chore"...LOL....I usually start when he is soft, because he likes the feeling of growing while I am doing it.
Also, try to figure out what area of your husbands penis is the most sensitive...for my H, its the sides of it, so I always make sure to adjust my angle so that I can use my tongue up and down along the sides of his penis as I am sucking (I use a varying degree of suction too).
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Old 07-20-2009, 11:47 AM   #5 (permalink)
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OK, I've got some tips here... (warning, some crude language possibly to follow...)

Some of this may vary between different guys, so some trial and error might be involved. And you will have to have your goal in mind when picking techniques. Some are good for "hard, fast, and to the point" others are better for "Make it last, tease the hell out of him, and drive him nutz"...

#1.) Don't forget the balls. Cup them, massage them, suck them. Not all the time, but definitely here and there. Sucking on the balls would be a great way to "extend" the performance. Because it feels good to most men, but since it's not direct stimulation, it will make it last longer. Just don't be too rough. Along with that, and this will vary by men, but licking, sucking and caressing the "taint" is nice too. If you don't know what that is, let me know.

#2.) Change speeds. If you get going really fast, then slow it down abruptly, and then back up, it will drive him NUTZ, which it sounds like is what you want. When going slow, long movements are the best. On the way "up", bring the head all the way out of your mouth, with your lips staying on the head, think of sucking on a sucker and pulling it out of your mouth while sucking on it.

#3.) Hand and mouth together. Adds more stimulation, especially when you are driving for home. And with more "gifted" gentleman, where you can't get your mouth down the shaft as far. It will stimulate places your mouth can't quite reach. And mix it up, with hand going same direction as your mouth, and going the opposite direction.

#4.) Use the tongue. Especially on the head. The head is very sensitive. So licking it or a tongue flicking is always good. Also refer back to the sucker thing, while you are pulling the "sucker" out of your mouth, get your tongue in the action at the same time. Also, like up and down the sides, or up the bottom of it, starting from where the shaft meets the scrotum, and continue up the the head. Some will even like you to take their penis and kind of slap it against your tongue/mouth a few times.

#5.) Find the balance of rough and soft. If you are too soft, you won't get the feeling, but don't get so rough you leave marks. And watch the teeth...

#6.) Depending on your guy, some like their butt to be played with. Some do, some don't. But if you do this, don't ignore the equipment while doing it.

#7.) This isn't necessary, but a lot of guys will like it better when it goes in your mouth and if you swallow. It's not a deal breaker or anything like that. But in my opinion, if she keeps going when I'm orgasming, without taking her mouth off of me, or blowing it all over my stomach, or stopping to run to the bathroom, it makes it just a little better. But like I said, if you can't or won't, it's not like we're not going to enjoy it or anything.

#8.) There's always things to add. And ice cube, pop rocks, things like that may help add sensation there.

#9.) Use your "gifts". Rub your breasts up and down on his "area". If you can, shove your breasts together with his penis in the middle and move up and down (titty-****). Most guys love this in bursts, not as many would want this as their only stimulation though.

There aren't so much techniques...

#10.) Already said, but enthusiasm and eye contact, and CONTROL!!!. Act like you really like doing it (which you maybe do) and it's actually making you feel good and you are controlling the entire situation.

#11.) What you are wearing adds to it. While any guy would take it, no guy fantasizing about getting a hummer from his wife while she is wearing dirty, baggy old clothes. Naked or in some sexy underwear or something is nice.

#12.) Be spontaneous. Nothing is better than surprising the hell out of him. If your only goal is just for him, just drop down and start doing it somewhere and sometime he wouldn't expect it. The best one I ever got was when I was in the living room. I just stood up, why wife walk up to me, gave me one kiss, then juts dropped to her knees and undid my pants. Nothing else done, nothing else said. Just "Boom!" and it was nice. She started right there, then stood up and pushed me to sit down on the couch. Which reminds me, be sure it's somewhere you can at least sit down, if not lay down. If I'm just getting a pure BJ and nothing else, I like it better if I'm more in a sitting position on a couch or a chair. Not that standing the whole time is bad, you just can't do quite as much.


I'm sure I'll think of more. I'll put them on here.
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:23 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My likes are...

1. Don't go too fast! some women just think it's a race
2. Deep as you can, try and get that last little bit you
normally can't if that's the case, it feels better.
3. Sometimes put your best effort into the
up motion instead of the down motion. Make sense?
watch videos of guys masturbating, you'll notice they
often put more energy into the up motion than down.
Mimick that with your mouth.
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Old 07-20-2009, 12:46 PM   #7 (permalink)
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OK, I've got some tips here... (warning, some crude language possibly to follow...)

Some of this may vary between different guys, so some trial and error might be involved. And you will have to have your goal in mind when picking techniques. Some are good for "hard, fast, and to the point" others are better for "Make it last, tease the hell out of him, and drive him nutz"...

#1.) Don't forget the balls. Cup them, massage them, suck them. Not all the time, but definitely here and there. Sucking on the balls would be a great way to "extend" the performance. Because it feels good to most men, but since it's not direct stimulation, it will make it last longer. Just don't be too rough. Along with that, and this will vary by men, but licking, sucking and caressing the "taint" is nice too. If you don't know what that is, let me know.

#2.) Change speeds. If you get going really fast, then slow it down abruptly, and then back up, it will drive him NUTZ, which it sounds like is what you want. When going slow, long movements are the best. On the way "up", bring the head all the way out of your mouth, with your lips staying on the head, think of sucking on a sucker and pulling it out of your mouth while sucking on it.

#3.) Hand and mouth together. Adds more stimulation, especially when you are driving for home. And with more "gifted" gentleman, where you can't get your mouth down the shaft as far. It will stimulate places your mouth can't quite reach. And mix it up, with hand going same direction as your mouth, and going the opposite direction.

#4.) Use the tongue. Especially on the head. The head is very sensitive. So licking it or a tongue flicking is always good. Also refer back to the sucker thing, while you are pulling the "sucker" out of your mouth, get your tongue in the action at the same time. Also, like up and down the sides, or up the bottom of it, starting from where the shaft meets the scrotum, and continue up the the head. Some will even like you to take their penis and kind of slap it against your tongue/mouth a few times.

#5.) Find the balance of rough and soft. If you are too soft, you won't get the feeling, but don't get so rough you leave marks. And watch the teeth...

#6.) Depending on your guy, some like their butt to be played with. Some do, some don't. But if you do this, don't ignore the equipment while doing it.

#7.) This isn't necessary, but a lot of guys will like it better when it goes in your mouth and if you swallow. It's not a deal breaker or anything like that. But in my opinion, if she keeps going when I'm orgasming, without taking her mouth off of me, or blowing it all over my stomach, or stopping to run to the bathroom, it makes it just a little better. But like I said, if you can't or won't, it's not like we're not going to enjoy it or anything.

#8.) There's always things to add. And ice cube, pop rocks, things like that may help add sensation there.

#9.) Use your "gifts". Rub your breasts up and down on his "area". If you can, shove your breasts together with his penis in the middle and move up and down (titty-****). Most guys love this in bursts, not as many would want this as their only stimulation though.

There aren't so much techniques...

#10.) Already said, but enthusiasm and eye contact, and CONTROL!!!. Act like you really like doing it (which you maybe do) and it's actually making you feel good and you are controlling the entire situation.

#11.) What you are wearing adds to it. While any guy would take it, no guy fantasizing about getting a hummer from his wife while she is wearing dirty, baggy old clothes. Naked or in some sexy underwear or something is nice.

#12.) Be spontaneous. Nothing is better than surprising the hell out of him. If your only goal is just for him, just drop down and start doing it somewhere and sometime he wouldn't expect it. The best one I ever got was when I was in the living room. I just stood up, why wife walk up to me, gave me one kiss, then juts dropped to her knees and undid my pants. Nothing else done, nothing else said. Just "Boom!" and it was nice. She started right there, then stood up and pushed me to sit down on the couch. Which reminds me, be sure it's somewhere you can at least sit down, if not lay down. If I'm just getting a pure BJ and nothing else, I like it better if I'm more in a sitting position on a couch or a chair. Not that standing the whole time is bad, you just can't do quite as much.


I'm sure I'll think of more. I'll put them on here.
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Sorry to quote your whole post but I think I'm in love with you and I feel like forwarding this to my Wife, in fact all Wives should get these instructions by law when they get married.

My Wife don't like it and is selfish and so I don't get it but once or twice a year and even then it's short lived and not that good.

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Just the fact that you care enough about him to ask, how you can do it better for him, is doing enough.
Plus your raising five of his boys too, man, I swear that your Husband's a lucky guy.

Like I said I don't get it enough since I married my current Wife, but from what I can remember from memory of past ladies that cared enough to bring their A-game. All the stuff GPR listed so eloquently is all good, especially the not forgetting the balls and licking, the "taint" and up the bottom of the shaft.
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Old 07-20-2009, 06:26 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Hey...thanks for all the replies/ideas....he's been gone for a couple of weeks....so between that and some of this new info....he's in for one hell of a treat when he gets back!!!
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BJ.....Whats that!!

When my wife found out that I liked it-----She would not do it anymore!!!!
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Just the fact that you asked and are thinking about this is huge! My compliments to you

I think all the comments above are good. One that I would add is to keep going a little longer then he wants you to... make him squirm alittle....or alot
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I LOVE it when my wife acts like she doesn't want to it's a whole power trip thing for me. If your husband isn't into things like that. Acting like you can't live without getting to blow him, should help. Talking about how big his joint is and how much you love it should help also.
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BJ.....Whats that!!

When my wife found out that I liked it-----She would not do it anymore!!!!
hahahaha not funny at all because the same thing happened to me
so why am I LMAO!!!
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i wish my wife would read this cause she sucks at it

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i wish my wife would read this cause she sucks at it

Isn't that the point??
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Old 07-21-2009, 06:28 PM   #15 (permalink)
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6 rules
Moan
Twist
Take it all in
don't spend too much time licking and being playful
ALWAYS SWALLOW
let him see it in your mouth first before you swallow

Making myself horny, whew!
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