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post #121 of 193 (permalink) Old 02-12-2013, 07:16 AM
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

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Exactly. And I find it interesting that I haven't seen, in all the time I have been on here, any woman who prefers uncircumcised penis being called shallow... unless I missed those posts somewhere....
I have no doubt there are women who prefer men that are uncircumcised and women who prefer circumcised and some will take either or they just like all kinds of penises.

It is a woman's preference, there is nothing shallow about wanting your husband's penis to be attractive to you.

Just as there are men who like large breasts and some who prefer smaller breasts. A few of my friends main attraction to their wives were the size of their breasts.
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Exactly. And I find it interesting that I haven't seen, in all the time I have been on here, any woman who prefers uncircumcised penis being called shallow... unless I missed those posts somewhere....
Preference isn't shallow. There's a couple of posts in the thread though where it's a high enough priority to have kept two posters (you&hubby, avg&wife) from being married to your spouses without circumcision (or so it sounds). So I imagine my wife telling me this and how I would feel about that. I was circumcised at birth so it wouldn't change anything except it would make me wonder exactly what criteria made her decide I was the guy for her. We watch porn on occasion and she has made comments about it but not showstopping/dealbreaking comments.

And to be clear Maricha, This one thought feels shallow to me but you have consistenly proven to be the opposite of shallow so it's merely a difference of opinion.

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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

I agreed with Thundarr. Perference is fine. I prefer a woman with a larger breast size (not mega-huge or anything, but more than a handful on each side ) . Now, if I was single and started dating a wonderful lady, someone who had a great personality, shared many of the same ideals as me regarding children, life, finances, etc. and someone I thought was marriage material, I wouldn't suddenly toss that out if I found out her breasts weren't quite as big as I would like.

Would it be a bit of a disappointment? Sure, but there is so many other qualities that make up for it, that there's no way I'd toss aside a great women just because she doesn't wear a D-cup, something that was decided for her before she was even born and she had no control over (outside of surgery).

If someone honestly said they'd toss aside a wonderful man because he was circumcised/uncircumcised, then to me, they are pretty damn shallow. I mean I can understand there is limits to physical attraction, such as if the man/woman is morbidly obese or something, but over the size of her boobs or over whether or not his penis has some extra skin on it? That's weak sauce to me.
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Exactly. And I find it interesting that I haven't seen, in all the time I have been on here, any woman who prefers uncircumcised penis being called shallow... unless I missed those posts somewhere....
I have not been on TAM long enough to know a deep history here, but in greater society men are consistently called shallow for having *sexual bias*.

I am curious what you or others consider the limits of that sexual bias are. You hinted that there are limits earlier when referencing breast size or something "similar"

If it includes race are you a bigot? Is asking a wife to get a boob job equivalent to asking for a circumcision? I was always taught a women that cared about what kind of car you drove was shallow. Maybe that isn't the case.

So what is being shallow or should that label just be tossed aside ?
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I got circumsized when I was about 23. Foreskin was too tight and was causing pain.

I kinda always wanted it that way, and I was having trouble with PE which I also attributed to the ultra sensitivity that I now miss...

It was pretty painful, and was a rough two or even three weeks...then guess what...you have a brand new penis you have no idea how to use!!!

No joke it took me a long time to figure everything out...you lose the natural lube, masturbation has never been as good, blow jobs are still good, but not as good as they were. I could rub up against any part of as girl and it felt good...now I only like to rub up on the soft parts. Sex didn't change much...its always awesome.

If everything works, don't mess with it. I hate how I've got to lube up almost everytime to make it happen. My PE stopped completely, but I think that was just getting older, when I hit 27 I finally got control. Now at 33 it takes too long sometimes.

I'm not regretful I got circ'd - I just wish I never knew how good it felt to not be. Ooh, one thing that way better is not having a foreskin to get in the way when I pee...sometimes that would make a real mess!!
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Yes if you wish to put it that way.
People have preferences, she likes a penis that is cut.
Och I don't have but this makes me cross my legs anyway.

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Jack how are things going?

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I have not been on TAM long enough to know a deep history here, but in greater society men are consistently called shallow for having *sexual bias*.

I am curious what you or others consider the limits of that sexual bias are. You hinted that there are limits earlier when referencing breast size or something "similar"

If it includes race are you a bigot? Is asking a wife to get a boob job equivalent to asking for a circumcision? I was always taught a women that cared about what kind of car you drove was shallow. Maybe that isn't the case.

So what is being shallow or should that label just be tossed aside ?
There was a thread recently started by a man whose wife was appearently putting on wieght. He wanted to know if he was shallow for wanting her wieght to stay with his attraction zone.

You should read it. I don't believe anyone thought he was shallow. I don't think we have a choice about what we find attractive sexually. It is either there or not.

If a man like big boobs he should marry a woman with them. If a woman likes a circumsided penis, she should marry a man with one.

It not shallow to be attracted to a type and go for that type. If we all liked the same thing you could not say there is someone for everyone.

I have a strong preference for one over the other. I won't say what it is but I do and I don't think I am shallow. I had no control over what appealed to me, it was just there.

I think it is unfair to ask a partner to change themselves to fit a preference after the wedding ceremony. That not fair.

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Thanks a lot for asking.My wife actually joked today that we we're not having sex again until I get circumcised.She still wants me to get it done.But I'm still not really that willing to entertain it.
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Wow, people are buying foreskins while others are cutting them out!
Overcome the effects of circumcision with SenSlip, the artificial retractable foreskin.



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Thanks a lot for asking.My wife actually joked today that we we're not having sex again until I get circumcised.She still wants me to get it done.But I'm still not really that willing to entertain it.
I would have just said "Sure, let's start with you" and watch her squirm.
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Wow, people are buying foreskins while others are cutting them out!
Overcome the effects of circumcision with SenSlip, the artificial retractable foreskin.





I would have just said "Sure, let's start with you" and watch her squirm.
"SenSlip provides a A feeling of warmth, security and self-esteem...It is available in Caucasian Pink and now in a Mid-Brown color"....LOL
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LOL I didn't read that part
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Thanks a lot for asking.My wife actually joked today that we we're not having sex again until I get circumcised.She still wants me to get it done.But I'm still not really that willing to entertain it.
Jack, look, I know that my personal preference is circumcised, but if, by SOME chance, my husband had NOT been circumcised before we met/got married, and if we married anyway (keep in mind, folks, I never saw uncircumcised until AFTER he and I married, and I was looking up info because of the controversy behind circumcision), I would not, ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT request that he get it done just to make me happy. If ANY man still has a foreskin, the ONLY reason he should even entertain the thought of getting it done is if there is medical necessity for it. Period. Don't do it, Jack. She married you, knowing full well that you had a foreskin.

Now, has she gotten any plastic surgery to remove excess skin from her rapid weight loss? There's a reason I ask this....

You can use the 2x4 without adding nails to it.

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My wife actually joked today that we we're not having sex again until I get circumcised.She still wants me to get it done.But I'm still not really that willing to entertain it.
The ****..? Tell her to get lost.

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