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post #1 of 193 (permalink) Old 02-09-2013, 09:10 PM Thread Starter
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Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

My wife and I have been married for 6 years.She never has told me she has a problem with my uncircumcised penis.Yesterday she asked,"Do you ever think about getting circumcised"?And the discussion went on.It seems she doesn't like my uncircumcised penis.I've done a lot of reading online about this today.A study actually said that circumcision removes 20,000 nerve endings from the penis.And it is widely reported that uncircumcised men have more sensitivity.Im upset and confused.I do not want to get circumcised.My wife actually claimed to have told me this before.Her brother got circumcised years ago,and she claims to have talked to me about getting circumcised when she told me about her brother.That had to have been a one sentence or something of that nature and not a full conversation because I would have remembered it.So do any men have experiences with their wives wanting them to get circumcised?Any women prefer an uncircumcised penis?Why?Have you ever told a man you wanted him to get circumcised?
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

I think your wife is way out of line. Asking you to surgically alter your own body with a risky and painful, nonreversable procedure is not OK.

What led to this discussion?
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

I agree with little deer. My bigger question is, she must have been good with it to marry you, why is a problem now?
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

I wanted my H to get circumcised because his foreskin does not stretch over the head of his penis. Since the tip of his penis never comes out he doesn't feel much during sex and therefore didn't really get into sex. We can not have sex without him using a condom because it hurts him for the foreskin to stretch. He didn't tell me it hurt him for a long time and just avoided sex. Unfortunately both of us were naive to the fact that the foreskin is supposed to stretch over the head so i thought this was normal for uncircumcised guys. We only recently discovered that this is not normal. His foreskin issues made sex really unpleasant for us both which is why i wanted him to get circumcised.

Other than that i find a circumcised man more visually appealing. The thought of giving a bj to a circumcised guy is much less appealing. But i wouldn't ask my H to get circumcised just for that.

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I agree with little deer. My bigger question is, she must have been good with it to marry you, why is a problem now?
Well she says she didn't want to hurt my feelings....
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I think your wife is way out of line. Asking you to surgically alter your own body with a risky and painful, nonreversable procedure is not OK.

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Well we were basically talking about sex and our likes and dislikes.And she just asked have you ever thought about getting circumcised.
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

Don't do it! Whatever your wife's issue with you will not be resolved by removing your foreskin. Dig deeper.

Did you tell her about your research? about why you would be unwilling? If so, How did she respond.

Is there a chance that there is a second penis that you are being compared to?
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

Tell her you think her boobs are flat and she should get implants until they are a size KK. Tell her you never liked them before and are only bringing it up since she suddenly has developed the openness in the relationship to point out what you both think is ugly about one another.
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

I have never been with anyone uncircumcised. Have you asked her if there is a difference between sex with a man who is and isn't? If this is a visual thing, I can't imagine she would have married you. I have heard of some grown men being circumcised and I can't imagine the pain with erections during the healing process.

To answer your question.....If, in the future, I ever have relations with a man who is uncircumcised, I would NEVER request he get a circumcision. I think that is totally uncalled for. If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it.
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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

Why does she want this? This is not something to be taken lightly. She does not seem to realize what she is asking.

Having this done in adulthood is potentially traumatic. There is risk of infection, pain, decreased sensitivity compared to what you feel now.

It is usually done when there is a problem with the foreskin like he previous posters husband.

Your wife seems to be asking this on a whim. She does not know why the procedure was done on the BIL.

Get more info from her as to why. Tell her about your research about the procedure. then ask her if is so serious a reason as to make you go through the proceedure.

This will make it seem like you are taking her into consideration in your decision. It is your body though. If you asked her to get her labia trimmed, how woukd she react?

No matter what you talk about, please don't have the proceedure done.

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Tell her you think her boobs are flat and she should get implants until they are a size KK. Tell her you never liked them before and are only bringing it up since she suddenly has developed the openness in the relationship to point out what you both think is ugly about one another.

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She is way out of line. Tell her to forget it.
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Tell her the skin on her face is looking a bit rough and you would like for her to get a chemical peel.
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Tell her you think her boobs are flat and she should get implants until they are a size KK. Tell her you never liked them before and are only bringing it up since she suddenly has developed the openness in the relationship to point out what you both think is ugly about one another.
Ummm... I would hazard a guess that they already were pretty close to that size, since she had weight loss surgery not long ago. Remember that? Yea, Jack I is THAT guy....

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Re: Wife suddenly wants me to get circumcised...I think this is ridiculous

No disrespect, but her asking you to alter a part of your body is just plain crazy, in my eyes.
When you are married, you make a commitment to love your partner and accept them just the way they are. Plain and simple.

I would advise you to not do it if you are not comfortable with the idea. It's your body after all. I'm sure she would not like it if the tables were turned, and you suggested she alter a part of her body.
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