Age is often not kind to the human body, no matter how young the soul feels. And if you add smoking or a disease such as Diabetes II and excess weight gain, being in poor physical tone, well you may get the picture!
Aging is something people don't like to discuss because it IS rather depressing if you take it too
seriously and don't keep a positive attitude. Take it in stride if you will.
While you may not be having the sex you are accustomed to, maybe you need to re-vamp what you define as satisfying sex life? Re-think your expectations!
I can't do back bends like I could in my 20s, nor can I run an 8 minute mile any longer, but I sure as hell don't quit. I do back exercises to keep my back from going out, and run the best I can. That makes things better.
And as far as older married sex, well, no, it isn't all the horns and whistles it used to be for dh. I feel worse for my dh than me, because everything I ever had is the same and sometimes actually feels richer over time! Go figure! Maybe it is me being thankful for what I have and dh can't have, some empathy going there...
What I HAVE discovered is that IF I get dh away from home routine resonsibilties, and ME away from home routine responsibilties AND the worries of such, we have dynamite sex. It is like changing our "work at home" environment into finding an environment that is totally AWAY from our worries (which we have quite a few....) we re-ignite.
And often, because dh is overly tired, or just can't get "Mr. DH" to pony up....he will just watch
me do my "thing" and provide a bit of - ur, a supporting role rather than the main actor, shall I say?
has become quite the interesting discovery of late.
And that is OK. I know you want your dh to initiate more, but maybe he does not because you initiating turns him on more and then it becomes easier to get your "Mr. DH" up?
My dh likes being hit on by me....so I do it in creative new ways all the time. Once I asked him to come to the car wash with me, one of those where you go in and the carwash washes over you while you sit in the car? Well, he liked that, because I took the opportunity to give him a surprise at the carwash, as it is fairly "private" inside those things, in the car, waiting for the carwash machinery to do its thing.....
Always have hoped and wondered there were no cameras!