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Old 03-18-2013, 07:22 PM   #31 (permalink)
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so it's a mix of everything i was guessing- physically it feels different (& more intense for some), the mental/emotional of knowing your partner wants to do something just for your pleasure, the fact that putting her mouth there is particularly intimate...and something i hadn't thought of, some get off on the dominant/submissive/power aspect. and everyone's reasons are slightly different- some are more into it for the physical, others for the other reasons or a mix of all of the above...

interesting, thank you for taking the time to answer me!
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I absolutely love oral sex. Definitely, receiving it. LOL But it must be done right. If I'm doing, I want to do it right. If someone is doing it to me, I want it done right. When I'm doing it right, he's sucking his teeth, eyes rolled back in his head, toes curled, freakin standing on his tippy toes, gripping the back of my head...well, you know the rest. hahaha I make it downright nasty, too. He gets to watch me slurping and licking him, feeling me sucking him, experiencing the inside of my mouth, touching the back of my throat. My husband loves it. Most women think swallowing is gross. I happen to think it's pretty sexy and gives a bit of power over your lover as well as being submissive. Your man gets to feel completely loved and accepted, and like he went to heaven without ever dying. I admit, I do turn myself on while giving him a BJ, and I tend to get wet 'down there' while doing it. BONUS!
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If I may answer for my husband.....it's his intimacy. It's how I show my love to him. We have a lot of fun and some serious lusty moments too.
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Old 03-24-2013, 04:27 PM   #34 (permalink)
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My wife and I include oral in our sex life. As she has gotten older, she seems less interested in receiving, but continues to give. I consider myself fortunate. As for why....hmm... Is it important? Well, yes. If she were to stop, I don't know what I'd think. I really like getting the bj from her. As for why, well I think it is the taboo thing. I like that she wants to take me in her mouth. I don't know why, I just do. I think it is that is naughty and that it really is about pleasing me (it's nice to hear that she likes to do it too). Not much of an answer/.
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Feels nice, tastes nice
What's not to like?
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Old 03-24-2013, 05:05 PM   #36 (permalink)
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Because any real man has a special and very powerful switch called:

It's all about you

And when he loves a woman, he turns that switch on very very often. In a marriage or ltr, his female partner mainly uses her equivalent switch for children and aging parents.

If she is able (and some women aren't), to flip that switch for him, then she is ready, willing and able to give him oral sex.
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Old 03-24-2013, 05:56 PM   #37 (permalink)
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As for me its the same. To have someone give me pleasure and not worry if they are also enjoying it as much as I am. PIV is work for a man most times. In everything but a woman on top. He works pretty hard at trying to keep the right rythum up and not cum to fast so she can cum first. I can say for me once I go over the edge its very hard for me to keep going to get her across the finish line also. When I am going at it I am worried about her pleasure and mine to try to finish so bother are satisfied.

A BJ I can enjoy the sight the sounds and more. I give up the control as to when I am heading over the edge. I can relax and enjoy. I Must must must know that she is into giving it. If I think she is just doing this because she feels like she has too it ruins it for me. Nothing better than the wife climbing into bed and making me the center of attention and taking me over the edge and then saying no need in responding you can owe me one in return
hope my husband feels this way. I know my husband has to work hard to hold off until I cum. It's nice to show him appreciation for a very satisfying sex life. He can relax and enjoy.
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Re: Oral sex why its important? Oral sex is something special between two people. I believe pleasing your partner is important in a relationship and nothing should be off limits as long as both people are in agreement and it does not hurt anyone. I know when I first got married my husband did not want me going down on him and now he loves it.I take great pleasure in pleasing him. One thing I can say for sure if your husband is happy and you are giving him blow jobs, he will do anything for you. And I do mean anything. So good luck.
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Horse I agree with our statement 100%.
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I absolutely love oral sex. Definitely, receiving it. LOL But it must be done right. If I'm doing, I want to do it right. If someone is doing it to me, I want it done right. When I'm doing it right, he's sucking his teeth, eyes rolled back in his head, toes curled, freakin standing on his tippy toes, gripping the back of my head...well, you know the rest. hahaha I make it downright nasty, too. He gets to watch me slurping and licking him, feeling me sucking him, experiencing the inside of my mouth, touching the back of my throat. My husband loves it. Most women think swallowing is gross. I happen to think it's pretty sexy and gives a bit of power over your lover as well as being submissive. Your man gets to feel completely loved and accepted, and like he went to heaven without ever dying. I admit, I do turn myself on while giving him a BJ, and I tend to get wet 'down there' while doing it. BONUS!
Unlovedandunfullfill I agree with you 100% there is nothing beter than pleasuring your husband and watching him enjoy it. The pleasure that he feels and that you receive giving hm a blowjob is well worth the experience and love you two share. And your right you are in control and that a great feeling.
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I've have an opinion on this that may seem a little strange, but here it goes : Humans are the only animals that have sex for pleasure as well as procreation.
Dolphins are known to have sex for recreation and they don't care what gender the other dolphin is either..

I'd say from my experiences with my ex, I'm turned off to oral either receiving or giving. It was the source of alot of our fights. Her calling it gross, but wanting it for herself. Tacoma is right, its the rejection from your loved one that makes the experience a bad one. I'd only get them when she wanted something and then only a half-azzed one..Except for the two times that she REALLY needed something. Then asks if I liked it, and when I said yes the response was 'well, I'm not doing it again so.."

However from women post-wife, the experience has changed dramatically. Its not the actual act..Its the desire you see from her that tells you she wants it. That lust...And Yes ladies, swallowing is the best thing you can do at the end of it...Spitting really takes something away from the whole act...

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I've have an opinion on this that may seem a little strange, but here it goes : Humans are the only animals that have sex for pleasure as well as procreation.
Dolphins are the only other species outside humans to have recreational sex as well.

Primates also perform sex acts outside biologically driven mating, out of stress, but it is a pathological condition, not a natural one.
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monkeys/ apes and the such have sex for fun they even masterbate.
See my above post. Homosexuality in primates, masturbation, hypersexuality, etc, etc isn't for fun. It's a serious sign of mental instability and boredom, and it's one of the signs of improper environmental enrichment. All facilities who have primates, by law have to have plans to guard against this kind of behavior occurring by keeping the animals environment stimulating.

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I would guess that he doesn't really care about bj's because you don't and he doesn't want to offend you. I have never met a man who doesn't like or care about bj's. Bj's are one important step when taking your relationship to the next level.

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See my above post. Homosexuality in primates, masturbation, hypersexuality, etc, etc isn't for fun. It's a serious sign of mental instability and boredom, and it's one of the signs of improper environmental enrichment. All facilities who have primates, by law have to have plans to guard against this kind of behavior occurring by keeping the animals environment stimulating.

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Temporarily back on - the bonobo is a fully bisexual species. And black swan male pairings will steal eggs and hatch them together. Those aren't stress or mental instability or boredom, it's jus thow they are.

Sidetrack off.

As for the main topic, for me oral would be an alternative to PIV sex, which is painful for her. So oral, along with other things, would be the way that we can be intimate if she were open to it...but that's a whole other thread.
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