08-06-2009, 12:01 AM
Join Date: Jul 2008
| | Re: Newbie :-(
Your situation sounds so similar to mine. i didnt work, or do anything, when i first moved with my h. he never wanted sex and i wanted it all the time. its a horrible feeling. i'll never forget those days. i really feel for you. i put a keylogger and spyware on my H's computer and found tons of porn. so much for him being tired, etc.
but, you do have to keep in mind that you sit around all day. you have too much time to think. your world is now revolving around this. your H has some accountability in the pain you are feeling, but then so do you. get on with your life and do something with your life instead of sitting around waiting to pick a fight with him. get a job, get a hobby, volunteer, do something. an idle mind is the devils workshop. and above all, stop asking for sex! trust me. i kept asking and my self-esteem plummeted. i tried dressing up, doing my hair how my H likes, blah, blah, blah. it was a bunch of BS! ive never felt so humiliated or so low. your H doesnt want to have sex with you. i know that hurts, but it will only hurt more the more you keep throwing yourself at him and he keeps rejecting you.
forget the sex right now and start fixing your own life. you cant put energy into making a good life for yourself if you're constantly draining it on this issue.
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie