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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 04-13-2013, 11:39 AM
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Re: No sex, but he looks at porn and wants us to be swingers...

Some porn can enhance a sexual relationship with one's partner, especially if you enjoy watching it together, but even when you watch alone.. As a release, masturbating to porn alone can also be okay, but never when it reaches the level of replacing sex with one's partner.

With some couples, swinging to otherwise playing with others can work to make things more exciting for both, and it can even help to bring them together -- but only when you have established a solid, trusting relationship. That trust, however, isn't possible if either of you refuses to talk and listen to each other freely and openly about any issues relating to emotional and physical intimacy. If he doesn't make learning to communicate a top priority in your relationship, then what he proposes is utterly foolish.
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post #17 of 18 (permalink) Old 04-13-2013, 11:56 AM
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Seems to me you agreed to a swinger relationship up front, except you thought it would only be you swinging with women. Now he wants to expand that arrangement. You reap what you sow.
I agree this this . U swing before , it will be hard to make him understand that it is wrong.
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post #18 of 18 (permalink) Old 04-16-2013, 01:07 PM
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Re: No sex, but he looks at porn and wants us to be swingers...

Talking from past experience...

Staying together may not be possible. Love isn't enough in marriage you have to be willing to work at it and grow with each other. No one persons stays exactly the same forever.

I'm Bipolar and Severely Depressed. Seeking treatment was my SO's idea. It isn't fun. They weren't kidding when they said it has to get worse before it can be better. The thing to remember is IT CAN BE BETTER! I still hate it but I want my relationship to work.

There are things you can do. Vitamin B can help level out moods naturally and there are tons of other helpful things on the web. Do some reading.

just don't do anything to compromise yourself while trying to work it out. I'm not a big fan of swinging and porn but to each their own.

best of luck!
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