Re: 36 years old- sex in my marriage is NON-existent
Before putting it all on your wife, try cleaning up your side of the street a little bit.
Women need two things to be motivated for sex, an emotional connection and the prospect of enjoyment.
Emotional connection comes from giving her attention, praise and admiration, affection (non sexual). Are you doing these things for her? Flowers? Dates? Cards? Great conversation?
Hell, I wouldn't even in the mood after a long day of work, and evening of cooking and cleaning and chasing the kids, then an obligatory invitation to the bedroom with no buildup or foreplay for a quick session of wham bam thank you Mam.
Which brings up the prospect of enjoyment. Is there foreplay? buildup? Concentration on her? New things in the bedroom? Women need a good deal of buildup and stimulation before they are revved up, is she getting it?
I'm guessing you could improve in both of these areas. Hell, we all could.
Secondly, lose the porn and masturbation. Porn is a fantasy where no one looks like they do or can perform like they do, so real life is disappointing in comparison. You probably don't realize it, but you could be sending out subconsious vibes or body language that your wife isn't quite measuring up.
You would probably be more motivated to courting your wife properly to find fulfillment if you weren't already relieving yourself frequently. And your performance would be much better.