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Old 08-26-2009, 09:14 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Hear's some tough medicine, I challenge you to read to the end of it.

Having read your other threads, it appears that the two of you are fighting like 5 year old children. Neither of you comes off sounding good.

I got the impression that you sexually rejected your husband a lot some time ago, and by the time you got horny again he was not interested. No doubt he got used to relying on porn. I also think he is bitter about how sexually frustrated you let him get, at 20 y/o I would have been crawling the walls.

Now the thing is, given time he could just as well get interested in you again. But that's not going to happen if the two of you have turned your marriage into a battle field. One of you has to be the adult.

As you are the one writing here, that person might as well be you.

1) Apologise for sexually rejecting him in the past. Use the word SEX a lot so he can be in no doubt that you understand what he went through.

2) Don't expect an instant response from him. Make your apology just be fore you are due to leave the house so that he is left on his own to reflect on it.

3) You may think he has even more to appologise for. You might be right, but only people who's marriage has become a battlefield try to extract apologies from each other.

Trust me, it's only when married people realise that there is no place for fighting and revenge in marriage that they are ready for the proper fun and love to begin

I hope this is not all going over your head, but unless you can forgive him, your marriage is doomed. It's makes no difference if you agree with me or not... without forgiveness you don't have a prayer.
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Wow! MarkTwain said it all! I was trying to say something like that but softer... I didnt see the other post where she rejected him... that explains alot! Apologize and forgive... absoultely.
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Wow! MarkTwain said it all! I was trying to say something like that but softer... I didnt see the other post where she rejected him... that explains alot! Apologize and forgive... absoultely.
I'm not doing soft today. Today I'm in boot-camp mode
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