momfirst

I was taking a shower two days ago while my husband was on the computer and when I came out, I guess he didnt hear me, I surprised him and he quickly closed all the windows (he was online) so that afternoon while he was picking up the kids from school I went through my computers history and there was a link to gay movies....

My question is, is this normal? for a "straight" guy to be looking at gay porn movies?

gingerb

I may not be the right person to respond to this as I just discovered my partner is bisexual. But I would, and did, investigate as much as possible. I don't believe this is normal for a straight man. For your own sake please make sure he isn't cheating on you with men and putting you at risk for HIV. Good luck.

stav

Men have a huge curiosity about porn of all kinds.. Something most women find baffling, but there you are. Personally I'd rather be doing it than watching it!

First, is this the first time you think he has been looking? Does he make a habit of it? If he went and had a look once or twice and that was it, then I don't think you have anything to worry about. Check that first. Might even have been some link one of his buddies sent him, saying.,. hey isn'tt hat Fred from billings in this clip? or somesuch bloke nonsense.. If it is a regular thing then perhaps you should broach the subject, but carefully.. it might still be something completely innocent, but men can get very defensive if their sexuality is called into question.

So, first see if it was a one-off, in which case forget it.. second if it is more regular, then you need to talk..

kapjet

I think it might be a normal behaviour if done once for curiousity sake? However if there is a history of watching gay porn on more than one occasion I would be a bit worried. Hopefully he just curious and nothing more!
Good luck!

draconis

As a guy and having many guy friends I can't picture many men watching gay porn other then two women (strange I know). I might be inclined to see if he continues with it and see where it might go or if that was it.

draconis

stav

So as a bloke Draconis, have you not ever wondered, and maybe had a little peek? My husband hasn't but that is more to upbringing and ingrained attitude than anything else. I only ask out of interest as momfirst has not replied to whether this is a one off thing or not..

I would have a look at lesbian porn, once maybe, just to see what the fuss is about?

draconis

No stav but again it may have been my upbringing too.

draconis

tater03

See I would have to agree that my husband has no desire to watch or curiosity. He knows what is done he says and that is all he needs to know. Personally I would just keep an eye out so to speak and see if this is something he is doing more and more. Then I would definently ask him about it.

fredfoxw28

Does he do anything else weird besides watching gay porn? Does he have a best friend that he hangs out with and never invites you to tag along, does he enjoy anal? Does he have hidden dvd's or magazines. Most men enjoy watching 2 women but it's very rare that they enjoy watching 2 men.

Unhappy in LA

I am admittedly bisexual. I told my wife long before we ever got serious with each other, and gave her enough details that I felt she knew and understood. Since we got married I have been "a good boy", but that is not to say I've refrained from looking at any "alternative" porn. Many women don't like the competition.. whether it is male or female.

This is where honesty comes in. If you can't be accepting you cannot expect honesty. At the same time, you husband should always be honest with you, no matter what. Its a tough road, but try to be open minded about this.