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Again though, his wife didn't accidentally blithely ignorantly take this course of action. This what she chose to do and enforce it. Most people shouldn't have to be smacked up the head to be reminded of things like this. Or if they do, then you're married to a retarded girl.
"Oh please oh please oh pleeeeze act normal honey!"
Yes alot of you you all say is true but I have a feeling that tells me to guard the Love we have instead of fighting for the love I want.
That's fair. However, if you don't fight for yourself, nobody else will.
Originally Posted by 4oneone
We are in the deal together and she knows this the time shall come when my daughter will leave and I will have won the issue and not lost my wife.
That is not a given. What I can say is that a sexless marriage is a vulnerable marriage. You may think that your marriage is rock solid, but you should check out the Coping With Infidelity board to see story after story of men who were caught unaware by their wives' affairs.
Originally Posted by 4oneone
As far as the other man syndrome well we take high regard to that stuff we have been down that road and we don't think that this is an issue. When the love of your life is your husband and your wife those issues are of no interest, sacrifice all for us.
You are really in a fog here. You are unhappy. Your wife is unhappy (she has told you so). You want sex. Your wife wants sex. However, you are either too lazy or too afraid to give your wife what she has asked you for.
You have been warned. Men who ignore their wives' pleas usually don't end up happy men. I'm sure there are other men out there who will be more than happy to sex your wife up.
Been there done that we have talked and she can't seem to understand why I am not so willing half the time our bedroom door can swing at any given moment and with me being the initiator I have a over cautious concern about my daughter popping in at the wrong time.Lock the door and she will just stand at the door thats a drive killer for me and then my wife says we need to captilize on any free time we can get ie when kids go to school. But as the years pass I become less interested because I don't like being all hot and no action so I learn to not think about sex with my wife. She thinks I do not desire here anymore and thats not the case. I have a little daughter and I am not about to expose her to that side of Love yet/ever. So here I sit just waiting for her to grow out of our bed.
Our daughter "grew out of our bed" when she was 5 months old. She then went to sleep in her own room, in her own crib. She is now 5 years old and still sleeps in her own bed (except when she's sick or a storm out) and goes to bed every night on a schedule. You have to start this routine out of the womb, or they'll be in YOUR bed forever.
One thing to try is when they go to sleep, you and the wife sneak off to THEIR bed.......and sleep there.
Well daughter is out of the bed and as I predic ked (pun intended) the sex is thru the roof. We are sweating it out every night and day. All kind of trick F@#king is going on the stories I can tell now ......... All the suggestion about another man or woman were not close to how this turned out. The maturity of our relationship has taught us good things are worth waiting for and dang I got to say my wife and I have broken some all time records in the bedroom.
We weathered the storm and now we are living in sexual heaven. My wife even wants to try the taboo stuff she says we been locked up so long she don't give and damn where I put it "on her thats is" and I am putting it every where i'll have to go the the other sections to write about our new found freedom in the bedroom.
Okay what is the big deal with your daughter seeing you make love to your wife. It would be one thing if you did it in front of her. But if she opens the door "mommy and daddy were tickling each other " will more than likely suffice to resolve any issues. Also if she is in the bed asleep then take your wife into another room, couch, whatever and make her evening. You are the man, take charge, the bed is not the only place to make love.
Plus when your daughter is 18 you will have a funny story to tell. hey sweetie remember when your mom and I were tickling. We we were not tickling. I don't understand why sex between a mother and father is so damaging. If anything it will lend more credence when you tell your child you should save yourself for marriage. Because if you do it is great. I have a two year old that sleeps in the bed with my wife and I. So If I feel frisky I take out a blanket put it on the floor and my sleeping child is not the wiser. Couches make really good alternates to the bed.
looked at this thread yesterday and it just now updated. Congrats.
Quick response to going to other room back then we had four kids ages are spread out 11,16,21,25 as you can see the last 10 years grown kids in and out of the house kinda hard to go to other areas of the house. We would do an over nighter every month or so to keep up but when the mood hit at home it was a swing and a miss cause one of the four would be moving around now the the two oldest have moved out it is much easier to go downstairs or the basement. It has been a sexual trying experience to say the least. The daughter in the bed was the icing on the cake of trying to be intimate at home.
We have an 8 year old daughter that climbed into our bed during the night about 4-5 nights a week. Our kids had also been coming in our bedroom to "hang out" with their mom constantly, watch TV, etc.
I really think it was a factor affecting our sex life. I think W couldn't relax knowing a kid might come in. And sex in the bedroom was feeling like sex in a public place to her, not an intimate place for us.
I recently put my foot down and said no more. No coming in w/o knocking. No crawling in during the night. No hanging out to be with mom or watch TV. It's our bedroom, not the family room.
As long as mama supports your call and upholds it too you two should do fine take it from me I dropped the hammer several times and almost lost the whole family cause mama could not understand the fact of banning kids from the bedroom. Her behind got hot and bothered enough and finally got the message "KEEP OUT" When the mood hit I got tired of going to a Hotel for an over nighter by the time you did all that the mood is gone it is so much better when you can touch and go at it right then an there.