What Lizzie says below is truly a magical experience for a man. Magical. You will literally flood his entire system with endorphins. I have been on the receiving end of this treatment. Afterwards I am in this joyous, relaxed, loving state for quite some time.
You can do all this however and then NOT flip him over, and finish him. Get him crazily riled up and then give him a light peck on the cheek and go to sleep. He may beg, then you have to decide what to do.
You also might want to skip the french kissing/telling him what you want. He does not want you to pursue. But the massage - that WILL make any man rage with desire.
Originally Posted by Lizzie60
I say... extra loooooooong foreplay...
First start up with a nice dinner (could be delivered).. good wine, soft music, scented candles, dress up in a real sexy dress... sexy underwear (garter belt, stockings) high heels...
After dinner, get up... slow dance.. kiss (French kiss) a lot.. whisper dirty stuff in his ears.. (what you feel like doing to him... what YOU want, etc.)... slowly take your clothes off.. except your sexy lingerie..
take him to the bedroom... to give him the massage of his life..have him lie down on his stomach... he can't touch you.. for now... use warm massage oil... with your hands slowly massage his back.. his shoulders (sexy music is still on).. massage each part of his body... then get on top.. rub his back with your body... let him feel your breasts against his back.. press your body hard on his butt.. then gently rub his balls (he's still lying on his back) between his thighs.. ask him to flip over.. then do the same slow massage with your body... take off your bra... keep the rest.. give him a nice 'visual'...
He should be just about to explode by now..
Then just use your imagination for the rest..
That should be fun..
okay...this might change the topic a bit....but it's my thread so i think i can.
i spoke to my husband about the problems we have been having and this is what he said...
i'm too easy.
he wants me to play hard to get. everything we did at first was great and fun and exciting, but now he wants the excitement again of having to 'work' for his sex. he wants me to say no and be coy, rib on him and flirt. he wants the challenge of first time sex...but how do i achieve this after having sex with the same man thousands of times?
he's super smart and sometimes sais things that make me feel a little bit....small. i have low self esteem and he amplifies it with things he sais or his lack of sexual affection towards me. how do i get him interested enough in me to be able to play coy? and, i'm not a good actress. i feel so foolish sometimes. how do i get this 'first time' excitement for him when he won't notice me and i'm afraid of rejection from him?
he has been somewhat desensitized somewhat, he said he is kinda bored, but he said he thinks the thrill of the chase will help the excitement issues.
i like what was said before about not having sex and teasing. teasing without the pressure of sex sounds great. our sex life has slowed down to nearly nothing though....but denying sex and teasing sounds like an interesting start.
also working on love.
we love eachother very much. we cuddle every night and kiss and hug, etc. all that mushy stuff. we have only 'made love' (how i view it) maybe 5 times in the whole 2 years. i aven't really thought about it, but maybe that's right. we should work on that, too.