09-25-2009, 06:00 AM
Join Date: Jul 2009
| | Re: why wont my husband let me touch him
You are both so young. Men like him do not want to talk about the issues, and the more you try, the more he will place the blame for the marriage problems on you... If you keep trying to help the marriage by talking to him, pretty soon you will hear him say to you "you wont stop talking about it, things will get better if you just stop talking!" Bc in his mind, whatever he did before this, doesnt matter, you will now be the one ruining the marriage.
Do not get pregnant yet if you want some of those nights back. Ask him when he has a free night, and when you find one that is, plan a fun night! If its a work night, then say that you wont stay too late, just want to go back to a place where you had fun together for a bit. If you find that he is never available to do these outings or is not interested... you are so young... move on. You are way too young to have someone who isnt into you. You are heading into the prime years... and if you stay and it doesnt change, you will look back in your 30's and say My God, I missed out on the best years of my life.
Any aggression with a man that young, will get worse unless he gets help (but DONT suggest that to him at this point... it will infuriate him from the sounds of it... stick to positive steps for right now). Dont start saying to yourself, "but if I do this or dont do that...." that is called walking on eggshells, and it will take over your life.
Keep us posted!