Re: How to get rid of resentment
Thanks for all the comments, they, although some are of base, do help me figure this out.
I do miss the way we were, alot. We do not have kids and are pretty young. if growing old is this, I'll pass. I am to young to be on of those misrable husbands you see. I dont think I could ever be that period.
I really do not need her time, or have her be clinging to me. We are both very indepenant and do enjoy our own hobbies. I do miss the excitement level of our sex life. I am interested in keeping that alive, not just settling into a dpressing way of life and then die.
I try and think if I could be without her, and I do see myself doing so. I sure would miss her, and worry about her and her finnacial security, but I can deal with that.
Due to the economy, my firm has been hit hard and if I had seen this coming about 2-3 years ago when the nest egg was bigger, I would have left her everything and left with some cash and never looked back. I do have my magic number in my head, and when thats met, I do feel I would most likely leave unless we improved.
We did go to consuling a while back. I ws going for my job stress, and then a small portion about our marriage. She did come with about 3 times. In essense, she doens't she issues with her behaviour, but she does say she feels like a bad wife, so i am not really sure which one it is.
I come from a very independant family, her's is a complete nut house and she is pretty much the dumping ground for all her dead beat sisters/brothers and nurotic mother. It only saddens me to she her get bogged down by this, when she really needs to tell them to get lost. Again, not trying to fight for her time, just see her take care of herself.
I just get so resentful of constantly feeling like I an the one sucking it up and swallowing these issues. It has or could be the reason I am losing interest in he sexually.
Many thanks for all the replies, they all do help me figure this out.