I think I am getting resentful of my wife, or at least this hit me last night while laying in bed.
Over the past few years, I seem to have gotten angry or resentful of my wife and how she is the one that controls our sex lives.
Without the whole back ground, I feel more and more angry towards my wife for her lack of effort, lack of putting me in at least the top 10 important people in her life, and general lack of keeping our sex lives exciting.
It has gotten to the point where I actually avoid her or pretend I am sleeping to just avoid sex with her. I would rather just take care of myself and not deal with the BS anymore. I am a good husband, I provide a pretty nice life for her, cook dinners, clean, do nice things for her, buy her gifts, ext. That has all come to a hault the last few months, as I have pretty much given up. She seems fine with the same old same old each time we have sex. Which is pretty much me doing everything. I am just so tired of being the one that tries and actaully cares about keeping our sex life fun.
So, this has lead me to where I am now. Typically very quite around her, avoid her at bedtime, rather please myself than have sex with her, and each morning I wake at 3am only to lay there in bed for an hour and stew in my crappy situation. I start each day in total depression as to my life and how it has lead to this.
I simply can't leave, as I am the sole provider and provided a pretty nice deal for her and I would pretty much be ruined if I tried. I just fell like dying everyday as I am in such a rut with this.
Ho do i get past this? Should I speak with her about how I really feel? Do I still try and do the nice things only to feel like a chump getting played. Any suggestions would help.
Over the past few years, I seem to have gotten angry or resentful of my wife and how she is the one that controls our sex lives.
Without the whole back ground, I feel more and more angry towards my wife for her lack of effort, lack of putting me in at least the top 10 important people in her life, and general lack of keeping our sex lives exciting.
It has gotten to the point where I actually avoid her or pretend I am sleeping to just avoid sex with her. I would rather just take care of myself and not deal with the BS anymore. I am a good husband, I provide a pretty nice life for her, cook dinners, clean, do nice things for her, buy her gifts, ext. That has all come to a hault the last few months, as I have pretty much given up. She seems fine with the same old same old each time we have sex. Which is pretty much me doing everything. I am just so tired of being the one that tries and actaully cares about keeping our sex life fun.
So, this has lead me to where I am now. Typically very quite around her, avoid her at bedtime, rather please myself than have sex with her, and each morning I wake at 3am only to lay there in bed for an hour and stew in my crappy situation. I start each day in total depression as to my life and how it has lead to this.
I simply can't leave, as I am the sole provider and provided a pretty nice deal for her and I would pretty much be ruined if I tried. I just fell like dying everyday as I am in such a rut with this.
Ho do i get past this? Should I speak with her about how I really feel? Do I still try and do the nice things only to feel like a chump getting played. Any suggestions would help.