Re: Ladies, How do I approach my wife....
Thanks for the reply Dobo.
She is a very strong willed women. Many times she has stated she doesn't need anyone, and just wnats to be around her dogs. She is never wrong, and I am always the monster or bad guy. I tend to not be very emotional, but I am far from being a push over. I speak my voice to everyone, and am seldom unclear on where I stand. With her though, it's almost like I would ratehr just shut up, take my licks, and be left alone. I never have ordered her to do anything, never second guessed her purchases, and she has full access to our financials. I am far from being a controling type at all.
She can not have a discussion. It always becomes her defending or accusing. In my attempts to speak with her, I never use blame, never say term like "you always" or "you do this", I alwasy try and tell her how I FEEL, and not assign blame, simply tell her how I feel and thats it. She takes it and makes it into an arguement.
There is no, I talk and tell her how I feel, and then she talks. It is I talk, and she says I am wrong or stupid. Thus, I stopped even trying as it is pointless.
We have been to and done some fun things in our sex life, and wnat that to return.