Deb1234

I have been under the impression for a long time that pretty much all men, when they can, will look at porn on the internet. Pictures, videos...whatever they get access to. It seems every guy I know is on somebodies email list to get "interesting" pictures or videos on pretty much a daily basis.

Someone on this website told me the other day that not all men do this.

Is that really true? All you men out there....honestly?? Not ever??

dobo

I know several men who have told me that they don't look at porn. And they have no reason to lie to me as these are friends, not guys I've been in relationships with.

michzz

Most do, it is a matter of how often, their age, and access to sex.

And in person? Men and women both are not fully candid about their solo activities.

hubby

Yep, from time to time. Depends how long its been since my last, um, release, and how horny I am.

dobo

So you're saying they're lying, Mich? You'd be surprised at the things we talk about so I'd be really blown away if they were shy about this area.

Minncouple

I think so, but tends to way on how much sex I get. I know in my situation, it's about all the excitement I get, as my wife is pretty much mechanical.

If a guy isnt looking at porn, he is either fully satisfied with his wife or simply not interested in sex.

Also think it's terrible that wives feel they have the right to demand thier husbands not look at porn. The guy wouldn't be looking at porn if the wife was making an effort. So you think it's OK for the wife to not meet his needs, AND tell him he can't meet them elsewhere? That's complete BS.

revitalizedhusband

Nope, did in the past (long time ago) but I am 99% satisfied with the sexual relationship my wife and I have.

There is one thing I wish she did more of, but other than that, sex is great.

The above poster is correct, about the only way you'll see a man who doesn't is if they are completely satisfied in bed with their wife, or not interested in sex.

dobo

I think those are some very sweeping statements. It may be a huge effort for a wife and yet the husband may not be satisfied. Blaming porn on the wife is ridiculous.

Many women who don't like their husbands indulging in porn have no problem with them masturbating, so I don't understand the suggestion that porn is the only viable alternative for meeting the desire for release.

Let's keep these discussions down to facts and not get into all of this hyperbole and blame. It is annoying and just plain nonsense.

Deejo

dobo, could you ask them, "Why not?" Or even better, a great follow-up would be, "Then what form of stimulation do you use, if your partner is unavailable or unwilling?"
I would be really interested to hear a candid response from a man that does not use some form of self-stimulation. From my perspective, porn is sexual fast food. It is readily available, accessible, convenient, and gets the job done. But ... keeping the food reference, I don't view it as a satisfying meal and I wouldn't want to live on it. It is a fast, cheap, poor, substitute for how I would like to be spending my sexual energy.

As a couple of guys have already pointed out, porn never was a priority over my wife. But in my case - she would have preferred that scenario.

I would ask both my married and single peers, but I already know that they all use porn and masturbate like chimps jacked up on Red Bull.

MEM11363

On a 10 scale:
sex with a loving partner - 10
masturbation to porn - 7
masturbation without porn - 2

I gave up the porn 4 years or so ago. My wife satisfies me physically/emotionally/sexually.

That does not mean she has sex whenever I want. That does not mean she is in the mood whenever I want her to be.

It DOES mean that I know I am her highest priority, that my happiness is her highest priority. That barring a hurricane or a migraine if I tell her I strongly want to connect it happens that night.

Sex is so much better if there is some build up of desire. But this works best if you have a partner who will not leave you miserable and frustrated and act indifferent to your desires.

My wife did not change anything 4 years ago. I changed. Part of it is my drive slowed down some and that helped. And part of it was I read this book about a guy - only had sexual activity with his wife. Never touched himself, never looked at porn, didn't look at other women etc. He became my role model.

She put zero pressure on me to quit. She did not like it that I watched porn - she just accepted it and no longer said anything about it or complained or even gave me bad body language or anything.

The other night - in the middle of an hour of delight I looked at my wife and said - you are the only person touches me like that - just you - I don't even touch me like that. I would rather wait for you.

Deb1234

Whoa there!

I'm just asking because from my experience, a man either
A) has looked at porn on the web
B) does look at porn on the web or
C) will look at porn on the web if given the opportunity

and then to have someone tell me that this just isn't so, and that they genuinely believe this about someone who's not in a monastary, was kind of a shock to me.

My husband has looked at porn online for, I'm pretty sure, almost all of our relationship and I've just taken it for granted that this is just something he likes and he's going to do. I used to tell people, (back to the food analogies) "It doesn't matter where you work up your appetite, as long as you eat at home". While I no longer believe that to be completely true, I don't think that a wife should get terribly upset with a husband for doing it, as long as it's just in moderation and they still have a healthy sex life (which sadly was not so in my case..hindsight is always 20/20 right?).

recent_cloud

it's true not all men look at porn.

i'm not on any email lists that exchange porn nor am i interested in being on such a list.

i have no interest in online or any other form of porn.

i'm interested in the woman who has my fancy.

behappy

don't want to be the guy that does
but i do
i'm just not interested in my wife anymore it's sad, and i feel like a lesser man for it. i wish things were different

chuckf75

I do look at porn alone but it is rarer today as my wife satisfies me so much. My last marriage was much less sexually fufilling and thus I used porn more. Today I am much more to look at it with my wife, getting us both excited for a great sex session!

michzz

Both men and women, especially women, lie about masturbation activities at high levels compared to any other sexual question.