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Old 10-11-2009, 03:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How many of you (guys) out there are married and still are having to use condoms as Birth control. My wife and I have been married for about 4 months now and every time we have sex I still have to use condoms. I hate wearing condoms. I have begged my wife to find another form of birth control but she complains that she gets some type of "infection" from using birth control pills. So for the ladies out there (and I guess guys as well)....any suggestions as to what type of birth control to use besides the ole' condom?!
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Old 10-11-2009, 10:39 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Or get her pregnant...no need for condoms then!
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Old 10-12-2009, 08:34 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I have to "one up" you.

My wife is "fixed", so pregnancy is not even a possibility.

However, just about 8 months ago my wife started having throbbing pains/burning "down there" after sex. Now we've been married 9.5 years and this was brand new. She, over time, has developed a weird allergic reaction to my cum (confirmed by doctor).

On top of that, she gets severly irritated with latex, so condoms are out.

So, for the last 8 months its sex and then the "pull out" method of "birth control". I have been married for nearly 10 years now, have 3 kids, and all of the sudden when we are done having kids, can't ever "finish" in my wife again.

So, all I'm saying is...it could be worse?
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Old 10-12-2009, 08:38 AM   #4 (permalink)
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However, just about 8 months ago my wife started having throbbing pains/burning "down there" after sex. Now we've been married 9.5 years and this was brand new. She, over time, has developed a weird allergic reaction to my cum (confirmed by doctor).
Not to be a cynic, but did you get this confirmation directly from the doctor or is this what your wife told you?
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Old 10-12-2009, 09:13 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Funny this topic comes up now. We still use the condom but yesturday was the first time in years that I took it off and finshed outside (no pill, etc). It was just after her period so we are OK. I have mentioned it a few times that we should look into alternatives. She was just at her OBGYN last week and they discussed it. They think she may be alergic to progestrone so that limits the options. She is really worried about all the potential side effects (bleeding, lower libido, weight gain, etc) so I don't think we will get there until I go under the knife. Oh well, yestuday just reminds me how good and intimate it feels to not have a piece of latex between us.
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Not to be a cynic, but did you get this confirmation directly from the doctor or is this what your wife told you?
From the doctor, I was in the room because they had to test "my stuff" and her reaction to it.

If you are that "interested" read this, the symptoms describe my wife EXACTLY.

http://www.essortment.com/articles/s...rgy_100017.htm

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NuvaRing worked well for me and my husband...however, he sometimes uses condoms as well. We have been married for about six months now. I had problems with other forms of birth control, such as migraines and mild infections.
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Old 10-15-2009, 05:36 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My wife and I had very good success with a foam spermicide. Its not quite as good a condom but you risk getting pregnant if you have sex at all. No birth control is 100%.

I guess to some degree you have to know how big of a risk you are willing to take.
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My wife got fitted for a diaphragm. It worked great.

I HATE condoms. After we had our 3rd child - which was planned - I got the big V.


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How many of you (guys) out there are married and still are having to use condoms as Birth control. My wife and I have been married for about 4 months now and every time we have sex I still have to use condoms. I hate wearing condoms. I have begged my wife to find another form of birth control but she complains that she gets some type of "infection" from using birth control pills. So for the ladies out there (and I guess guys as well)....any suggestions as to what type of birth control to use besides the ole' condom?!
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My wife and I had very good success with a foam spermicide. Its not quite as good a condom but you risk getting pregnant if you have sex at all. No birth control is 100%.

I guess to some degree you have to know how big of a risk you are willing to take.
My 4th child was a result of this contraceptive's failure.
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We used condoms for 20 years, with only 3 short breaks... Guess how many kids we have

I did not realise how much sensation I was missing out on until we stopped 2 years ago. I'm not sure if the woman is as affected by condoms as much as the man... just thinking of the mechanics of it.

We stopped using condoms after I started semen retention. I have no idea if we are playing with fire. There are supposed to be sperm in pre-cum, and we are often at it for an hour at a time. But perhaps the fact she is 47 is helping.

I'm not recommending this as a contraceptive method AT ALL. Just giving my experience. If you don't want kids at all, don't have sex.
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Old 10-19-2009, 09:53 AM   #12 (permalink)
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i dont use condoms with my wife at all, i have a 7 year old son and that it.......yaaaay meeee
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Old 10-19-2009, 05:54 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I don't see the point in condoms if you're in a steady relationshp... I always relied on condom mainly as a means of preventing STD's not birth control...

In the past I usually sack condoms once I'm in a steady relationshp for a month or so and I've got some confidence in the guy... One thing I might suggest is to be absolutly clear about where you intend to finish during sex.. I hate guys finishing inside me and I know I'm not alone in that ... so maybe a possible issue?
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Old 10-22-2009, 08:01 AM   #14 (permalink)
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do you mean finishing inside you with a condom on or off, and if its off, why would a girl not want someone to do that besides the obvious...does it not feel good or something, if its with the condom on i can understand caus it could break and you could get pregnant. just curious....
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My wife's on the pill but still insists on using a condom as a "backup". I'm not a fan and even suggested I get a vasectomy (We don't want ANY kids) but even then she says we'd still need a condom since that's not 100%, she "read somewhere" about that failing as well so obviously that wouldn't be worth the effort lol
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