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Old 06-13-2013, 02:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hey everyone, I am new to the board, I am very intrigued by prostate massage/orgasm and would love for my wife to try it on me with either her finger or a toy, the problem is that I don't think she would go for it as she thinks anything to to with the butt is would mean I am gay....just the thought of of getting an orgasm through prostate massage rally turns me on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach her with this? Thanks!
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Old 06-13-2013, 02:24 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Doesn't mean you're gay at all. Just hint to her you'd like to try it and go from there. My wife sometimes massages my area down there with her fingers while licking my neck and getting me in the mood.
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Old 06-13-2013, 04:00 PM   #3 (permalink)
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When I gave my last bf a prostate massage, the first for both of us, he exploded with what he called the best orgasm ever. I happened to be read up on it and it was a natural progression because both of us like EVERY part of our bodies kissed, licked, and sucked.

This man is far from having homosexual feelings.

Why do you think your wife will think it's gay?
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We were having sex one night and I said I wanted to try doggie style n her, go in her vagina from behind, and she did do it, but said that she didn't care for it because it reminded her of gay sex. So I am not sure she would be so keen n putting anything up my behind.....but I want to try it so bad, tempted to play around on my own one night when she isn't home, but I don't like to play without her
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Old 06-13-2013, 04:30 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Well, I suppose there are plenty of ways to have sex and not seem gay (my official opinion is for her is that she's missing out, but I'm trying not to judge), but there is really only one way to properly stimulate the prostrate. It is a legitimate place of pleasure on a man and it's on the inside. What can you do?
I do know of a man on a blog who uses little toys on himself regularly. He seems to love it.
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Well, I suppose there are plenty of ways to have sex and not seem gay (my official opinion is for her is that she's missing out, but I'm trying not to judge), but there is really only one way to properly stimulate the prostrate. It is a legitimate place of pleasure on a man and it's on the inside. What can you do?
I do know of a man on a blog who uses little toys on himself regularly. He seems to love it.
Indeed. My college roommate and I have always been very open about such matters. Enjoying a bit of prostate massage, myself, I recently became aware of a particular prostate massage toy, found some videos online, and the reactions seemed rather...intense. Mentioned it to my friend, whose wife bought him one several years ago, and he said that, while some of those videos did seem over the top, they weren't that far off from his personal experience with said toy.
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Old 06-13-2013, 07:15 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Ok I was one of those way to conservative ladies along time ago.... I didn't know much about anal sex so my default answer was always l don't like it cause I didn't know anything about it.

So one day I decided to educate myself. I went out and bought books on pleasuring men hj...bj...and anally. Once I understood what all my big guys orgasmic zones were and all the technics there were I got intrigued and hooked. Once you try it and see what kind of an orgasim you can give your man with a prostate message and bj you will never stop doing it. Big guy gets one at least twice a week!
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Old 06-14-2013, 02:22 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Hubby and I tried this for the first time a couple weekends ago. IT WAS AMAZING.

He is my master. I'm his sub. I brought this up, but he was concerned I'd be the dominant partner.

But we worked through that and we did it. He said it was incredible. Something he never felt before.

The only way it would be "gay" is if it were a guy milking your prostate
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and she did do it, but said that she didn't care for it because it reminded her of gay sex.
I don't get it. What does she have against gay sex? Gay people kiss, they do oral, they cuddle and all sorts of things. Do you get blowjobs or it's too gay thing to do.

I'm very curious.

OT: I'm an anal virgin but that will change someday, maybe soon. I have already talked to my wife and she agreed.
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Old 06-14-2013, 09:59 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I agree, I don't think it is gay unless I was with another man, I just want to experience the awesome orgasm I read about other men experiencing, the whole body shaking orgasm, that would just be awesome! Any guys here experienced it? Please share!
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I agree, I don't think it is gay unless I was with another man, I just want to experience the awesome orgasm I read about other men experiencing, the whole body shaking orgasm, that would just be awesome! Any guys here experienced it? Please share!
I am not a guy but I can tell you it was amazing for big guy...he shook from head to toe and it like to never stopped ...longest most intense orgasims he has ever had. The first time when he was done he just kept looking at me and hugging me...I think he was actually overwelmed. It was one of the best emotional highs I have ever had to give him that kind of pleasure. There is a technique to getting a full body orgasim and to get it to last longer so google it or there are so good books on anal and prostate message for it. Have fun!
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what if she has "man hands", is it gay then?
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When I gave my last bf a prostate massage, the first for both of us, he exploded with what he called the best orgasm ever.
good for you; I don't think my wife will indulge me on this but a previous girlfriend did... best. orgasms. ever.
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what if she has "man hands", is it gay then?
Only if she uses more than one finger.
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Old 06-14-2013, 05:50 PM   #15 (permalink)
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We both enjoy this. Have tried most things and enjoyed them.
I have not yet been able to orgasm from prostate stimulation.
We have tried, we use surgical gloves and plenty of lube. I find her nails are too painful against my prostate.
Toys work well but only for the thrill, I can not orgasm.
She has suggested a strap-on, maybe but it's on the limit.
I think its the submissive aspect as opposed to a gay thing.
She's quite willing to let me orgasm inside her ass, I suppose I should be able to accept the same.
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