Re: Sexless and unromantic married life
.....The only thing you can control is your own actions. You can't make him see a counselor, or care that you are unhappy.
The only thing you can do is tell him what you need from the marriage, and ask if he is willing to do the work to make things better.
At that point, whatever his response is, it is your choice what to do with your life.
YOU CAN NOT force him to want change, by threats or anything else. All you can do is lay out your requirements for staying in the marriage. At that point, the ball is in his court, when he says if he is willing/not willing, then the ball is back in your court.