I think that greatly depends on peoples age, more frequency when under 25...
For old people like my husband and I who are around the half century mark, one time a week seems to be good for us both, and
we are happy with that.
I wouldn't take thopse surveys to heart, because I believe many of them are designed to create conflict to get people to spend money on things like counseling, beauty products, clothing, etc...
and do not reflect the reality of life for most people.
Until I was 35, I had sex often daily. I found sex GREAT when 30-35 years old. Too bad the sex partners I selected were not relationship material because they weren't.
Great sex does not equal a great marriage.
I'm only glad I never married any of the men I picked when my sex drive was high or I'd been really sorry.
Good sex and lots of it does not equal good marriage or a good partner/ spouse.
That is the truth although many will argue with it.... I can only guess they have some growing up to do to realize how it really is.
If one partner is denying another partners core needs that is not a healthy marriage. 5-6 times a year is profoundly broken if the high drive spouse has even an average drive.
That frequency almost always means the low drive spouse has a sexual aversion to their partner. And they are putting out the minimum amount to avoid divorce.
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Originally Posted by preso
Until I was 35, I had sex often daily. I found sex GREAT when 30-35 years old. Too bad the sex partners I selected were not relationship material because they weren't.
Great sex does not equal a great marriage.
I'm only glad I never married any of the men I picked when my sex drive was high or I'd been really sorry.
Good sex and lots of it does not equal good marriage or a good partner/ spouse.
That is the truth although many will argue with it.... I can only guess they have some growing up to do to realize how it really is.
If one partner is denying another partners core needs that is not a healthy marriage. 5-6 times a year is profoundly broken if the high drive spouse has even an average drive.
That frequency almost always means the low drive spouse has a sexual aversion to their partner. And they are putting out the minimum amount to avoid divorce.
Yeh. Not great. But wife does offer other services other than full penetrative sex about once a week.
Her take on this is that she really cant be bothered with sex but this is no hassle for her and she does it for me. Her argument is that ever since I've known her she hasnt been that bothered with sex.
If the alternative you are getting is satisfying to you - then you are in a once a week frequency - which most men can live with. Actually I find a great back massage + a hand job or a nice BJ to be about equal in terms of relaxation. Of course the back massage plus a bj is pretty amazing but requires a very giving partner.
If the weekly experience is done in a way that you feel good, then you should be overall happy.
I could tolerate once a week of real sex or alternative fun if that was most wife was willing. I am crazy about her - so I would just suck it up and accept that. I admit that since she is the only person ever touches my equipment - that I sure would be looking forward to that experience every week. And I would likely not tolerate having it interrupted by casual life events.
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Originally Posted by psychocandy
Yeh. Not great. But wife does offer other services other than full penetrative sex about once a week.
Her take on this is that she really cant be bothered with sex but this is no hassle for her and she does it for me. Her argument is that ever since I've known her she hasnt been that bothered with sex.
If one partner is denying another partners core needs that is not a healthy marriage. 5-6 times a year is profoundly broken if the high drive spouse has even an average drive.
That frequency almost always means the low drive spouse has a sexual aversion to their partner. And they are putting out the minimum amount to avoid divorce.
If thats the case, too bad they married and did not select the right partner. When I wanted lots of sex, the furthest thing from my mind was marriage, it was sex and thats it.
When I married, I did not marry for sex but made sure I had someone who not only was compatible in non sexual activity but who did not base the marriage on sex.
How sad for those who base a marriage on sex, they are sure to find nothing but disappointment.
My husband and I work different shifts so it has been hard to find the time. The only time I ever see him is in the morning before I go to work. When he comes home I'm asleep. Last week I texted him to wake me up when he got home because I was feeling amourous. Well, since then he's been waking me up every other night! I guess I can make up the sleep some other time.
So I'd say we have sex about 3 times per week average. I don't really keep track.
What I want and reality?? Well I could do daily. My wife has the drive of almost daily but her mind often gets distracted and she gets tired so it ends up being 1-2 times a week as an avg.. I think 2-3 times a week is healthy..
How much sex per week?
or I'd been really sorry.
Pray for me guys.
