Re: I'm not interested in sex but want to be
I understand your not wanting to with no orgasm thing. My wife, mainly due to psychological boundaries with sex from being date raped as a teenager, did not have an orgasm for at least the first 5 or 6 years of our marriage, and her libido was really low.
Now that we (together her and I) have her "buttons" figured out and she has one nearly every session (sometimes multiples) she wants sex nearly as often as I do and we average about 5 times a week.
Once you get those orgasm's coming (pun intended) your libido might rise a bunch. Plus, completed sex sessions (meaning both partners have an orgasm one way or another) are GREAT stress relievers.