sweetp101

My coworker, let's call her jane, is man crazy. But she wants a relationship badly. She met this guy that she started having a sexual relationship with immediately.

Well Jane did not know that he had a girlfriend. Once she found out, she still continued the relationship (sexually). He has also invited a buddy to join them in sex.

Before this started, I told her if she wanted a relationship with him (prior to finding out he had a girlfriend) she needed to slow it down. Now, she has threesomes, foursomes whatever with this guy. How can I explain to her that he is just using her for her body?

swedish

I would think she should already realize this since he has a girlfriend and the minute they discussed having his buddy join them, that should be a big red flag that this is about sex. If you fear she has fallen for him emotionally, maybe talk to her again about slowing it down because you don't want to see her get hurt. Is he saying things to her to give her the impression it's more than sex? If not, she probably knows what she's in for and choosing to ignore it. If he is, tell her you are worried he's saying what she wants to hear because he's getting his cake and eating it too...maybe advise her to back off and see if he still says these things when easy sex isn't on the table.

stav

sweetp101, though it is obvious you are concerned for your friend, unfortunately, there is little you can do, without being accused of interfering. All you can do for her is let her know that you are around if she needs help and support to get herself out of this situation.

You can't protect friends from their mistakes.

draconis

You can't save someone from themselfs.

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SageMother

Since this is a co-worker, it would be wise to gracefully move away from her personal life.

Remember, this person is present in an area that you depend on for your food, housing, and clothing.

Green-Moo

I'm guessing that your friend actually knows deep in her heart what the score is, but sounds as if she'd rather be in a relationship which is purely sexual than alone.

sweetp101

Thanks everyone for your advice.