Originally Posted by TNgirl232
Statistics say that people who live together prior to marriage are more likely to end up divorced.
As I remember, the authors of the study concluded that living together didn't make people more likely to get divorced, but that the kind of people who who live together before they get married are the kind of people more likely to get a divorce if they aren't happy. It's not the living together that causes the divorce, it's the rejection of traditional "no sex before marriage, marriage for a lifetime" beliefs which leads to both.
For my own personal experience, I can tell you this: if I'd lived with my first wife for a year before getting engaged, I would not have married her. And that breakup would likely have been less awful than the divorce was, when we finally did get divorced.
And I'll repeat now what I've always said about her: she is not a bad person, and our divorce was not her fault, and I bear her no ill will whatever. But we were a bad match, and our marriage was a disastrous mistake. And in the end, it took us far too long to admit that mistake and split.
I'm not going to tell you what to do; I can hardly claim to have run my life flawlessly, and I'm in no spot to tell anybody else how to run theirs. What I can say is that I did my first marriage the traditional way, and it was a mistake.