TheLuckiest08

I just got married (although we've been together over 8 years, lived together for 6). I looked online for a marriage forum, and found this one. I was hoping to find a place where people discussed ways to get closer to your spouse, married life, buying a house, etc., but instead I joined to find that almost everyone here has some kind of huge relationship problem. Am I the only one here who is actually HAPPY in their relationship??

happilymarried67

No you are not the only one happily married, as by my screen name. I am happily married at 41 with four kids. When I answer people's questions it is usually with positive things to do to make the marriage work. I feel you have to work on your marriage. I believe that marriage is sacred, I believe that you have to work on the man and wife part always. I believe that children can make it hard if you let it. I believe that showing affection for one and other and being playful is a daily thing and should continue after you have children. I believe a good sex life is important in a marriage. I believe that going out on dates is important, and communication is the key. I believe that you have to have a good diet, exercise at least 5 times a week, get adequate rest and relaxation for both partners. I believe that any marriage can fail and any marriage can flourish. I think if there is abuse and or addiction in the marriage then you cannot fix it with out intervention, and on that note if you marriage is having problems I think a councelor, therapist or spiritual advisor is the way to go. But that is why I am here because I like to help people and I am very happy in my marriage. I also know that marriages ebb and flow as they go on in months and years. I know the passion also ebbs and flows and I know that stress is something that can hurt your marriage and your health. I hope this answers your questions.

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draconis

If you look at the success area you will see me listed of over ten years and why it has worked so well, you will also find cindy there too with 9+ years.

draconis

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riskey58

I have been married for over 30 years. Yes we have had many problems, but have stuck bye each other. Things are better now then it ever was. Took a lot of work, and a lot of heart ache, but it was worth it.

marriedbliss

Hi there,

Marriage will have its ups and downs, I am so happy that you are doing well in your marriage and your contributions in this forum will be very valuable as your positive attitude and perspective will give us/me a light in seeing things. Best wishes to you.

Corina

I've been married for 12 years, and for the most part so happy! But this makes the days when 'issues' arrive that much harder. That's how i landed here. I never really posted my issues, just reading that others are going through things too has helped me.

Respect is the most important thing in keeping my relationship healthy, and that only works when it goes both ways and involves
honest communication.

Congratulations on getting married

GAsoccerman

been happily married for 12 years.

Chris H.

I'm happily married too.

The thing is, I find that a lot of new visitors the site gets are here because they are in a lot of pain and looking for help. Pain is a great motivator. Some may not have normally posted on a forum had everything been going ok. And that's good, that's what the forum is here for.

We're very lucky to have the guys and gals who post here even though their marriages are going well.

I've also seen a lot who came here looking for help and started helping others in the process. That's a really neat thing to see. It always helps me to get out of the turmoil of my worries by helping someone else.

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wife2dhubby

Yep we happily married to even though it only been just over 2yrs last March. We constantly working on it and do have ups and downs. But we won't give up.

mommy22

I know it's been very therapeutic for me to try to help and encourage others. It's the best way I've found to make something good come from a bad situation. Also, many of us make it through the really bad stuff and it makes us stronger and better than ever. I don't think my husband and I have ever loved each other to the degree we do now. So, don't get discouraged by the bad stuff. For many people on this forum, some of the bad stuff may only be a short season in the marriage. We're glad to have happily married people on the forum to encourage and advise others!

swedish

There have been more than a few cases where a spouse is here and thinking of straying & later posts they've changed their mind after thinking through the posts & found there might be other options to try first...those are the icing on the cake

Deejo

My marriage is in the garage for a happiness overhaul. We have both been pleased with the results so far. Together for 13 years, married, 2 children, for 9 years.

You tend to appreciate something a great deal more once you have experienced it, strayed, and then find your way back. The changes people are capable of making when they are invested in one another, are nothing short of astonishing.

justean

every marriage has good and bad days. ups and downs. ive been with my hubby 13 years, married for 9 and with 2 children .
im sorry to say that i dont think many marriages are 100% happy all of the time.
sorry to burst n e one bubble here. but relationships require work to get as far as they do get.
given my situation , but the nature of myself- no im not unhappy.
(at the moment)

crusader

I am very happy with my marriage. I have a wonderful wife and 4 beautiful children. Every marriage has issues and downtime where things can get into a rut. To me this forum is about getting out of ruts, helping people and reinvigorating marriages back to the time when we were newlyweds.

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justean

i agree with what your saying crusader. its actually a nice statement.