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Old 10-01-2008, 01:44 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Just wondering if your parents are annoying as mine? My parents nag me to wear socks outside when it's cold, or they put food on my plate when they assume I should be eating it.

Just to be clear, I live 8-hours away from my parents and they come up now and then to visit. At first I'm excited to hear they are coming, but it always ends up the same - them nagging the crap out of me and treating me like a baby! I'm turning 28-years old next month. Why can't they treat me like an adult? My dad still orders food for me when we go out to eat at restaurants. Makes me wish I lived 10,000 miles away from them so I wouldn't have to see them so often.
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Old 10-01-2008, 09:12 PM   #2 (permalink)
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lol....well you teach people how to treat you...but i guess there might be an exception when it comes to parents.

my mom actually has good boundaries with me. But then we have had numerous conversations on what is appropriate and not appropriate now that im all grown up. Some of the boundaries were hard for her (religion) but after some talks she respects my boundaries now.

My H's mom on the other hand sounds just like yours. she'll call him up and go on and on about what he should be eating and all that. she sends him stuff in the mail. it drives him nuts.
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Old 10-02-2008, 04:32 AM   #3 (permalink)
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i think you simply have to say what you want to do. when you see them, they prob stil see you as there baby - looking after you.
you either put up with their treatment and wait til they go or you look them in the eye and reach out within communication.
im not saying parenting is easy , its not, having to let your child grow up and really let them go.
my hubby is 40 next feb - his mother does exactly what your mother does and she lives around the corner. but despite all their efforts, they really dont change. hubby stil doesnt put his coat on or clean his boots and she keeps naggin.
mums try and do their best. they never want harm to come to you.
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Just wondering if your parents are annoying as mine? My parents nag me to wear socks outside when it's cold, or they put food on my plate when they assume I should be eating it.

Just to be clear, I live 8-hours away from my parents and they come up now and then to visit. At first I'm excited to hear they are coming, but it always ends up the same - them nagging the crap out of me and treating me like a baby! I'm turning 28-years old next month. Why can't they treat me like an adult? My dad still orders food for me when we go out to eat at restaurants. Makes me wish I lived 10,000 miles away from them so I wouldn't have to see them so often.
Simple..they love you, and you grew up too fast in their eyes.
My baby one isn't a baby any more, and even I know I have to let him grow up. I find it hard for me too.. I want my little baby back.. I miss that, but I know I have to let him have his wings to fly away on day, but I will always be there for him, if he needs me. He will always have a home to go to, if the worse happens to him too, like lose his home or whatever. One thing through..he can't drive until he is 40. Ok, maybe 30.

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Old 10-02-2008, 12:28 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Have a talk with them Send them a letter about what is nagging you they do when they are with oyu tell mthem you will love so much to can order your own food when you are out eating with your dad and also remiond them how old they were when they get married and had ... you!
be kind to them so to dont shrug them.
be be clear on what have chnaged and that they cant no longer do without pointing that you are a little girl and making oyu feeel bad or angry at them.
and when they are there have a talk with them about it.
But dont be bad and dont cry so much, think at all teh kids who dont have parents and kids who have parents who dont give a damn about them and kids with parents who let them take care of themselfves since they were 7 or 13... and thats a hell of a difference case.. but better too much than not enough or not any.. believe me.
Try to look at it with a smile, or make them a surprise an dwhen they ocem open the door dressed like abig baby with panpers on and thing in your mouth, and screammign mummyy! daddy<! i think they will get the message..
They spend their life making boundariesd for you, now htat youa re grown up it is your turn to make boundaries for them and draw a line in the sand.
Not taking it up with them show that you are not all mature since you dont dare to talk face to face with your parents and have a meeting about it unless they initiate it. So maybe you are unconciously keeping things that way..
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Old 10-04-2008, 10:46 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Thanks for the advice. My parents left last night to go home and I miss them. It's this whole cycle that starts. I miss them and want to see them, then when they do come over to visit, I get annoyed of them. And then they leave and I miss them again.

I've just accepted that my parents will always treat me like a baby and nag me. I talked about this with other co-workers and they all get the same annoyance from their parents in some way or another. It's just human nature! And yes, I do realize that I am fortunate to have loving parents who raised me well and are there to help me when I need it.
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Thanks for the advice. My parents left last night to go home and I miss them. It's this whole cycle that starts. I miss them and want to see them, then when they do come over to visit, I get annoyed of them. And then they leave and I miss them again.

I've just accepted that my parents will always treat me like a baby and nag me. I talked about this with other co-workers and they all get the same annoyance from their parents in some way or another. It's just human nature! And yes, I do realize that I am fortunate to have loving parents who raised me well and are there to help me when I need it.
My Mom has this annoying habit where she will ask you a question 25 different ways.....heres an example

Do you want something to eat? No
When was the last time you ate? Couple hours ago..
Well you should be hungry why dont you eat? Im not hungry
Well you must be hungry let me make your something. Mom Im not hungry
Well you need to eat......

You guys get the point...finally one day I told her about it and she laughed and said she was sorry she would try not to do it anymore. So now when she starts to do it I just say "Mom your doing it again" and we laugh and she stops.

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Old 02-27-2010, 06:42 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I wished my parents were here, close to me, but they live far away. I miss them a lot, and I can't wait till summer. Nobody takes care, and loves you more than your own parents. Remember that. Will come a day that you will miss these ''annoying'' moments, like I do now.
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live with your in laws for a while and you'll learn to appreciate your parents lol at least that's what happened to me!
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Because parents have to grow up a second time when you leave home. Not all of us succeed. We need you to help us

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Just wondering if your parents are annoying as mine? My parents nag me to wear socks outside when it's cold, or they put food on my plate when they assume I should be eating it.

Just to be clear, I live 8-hours away from my parents and they come up now and then to visit. At first I'm excited to hear they are coming, but it always ends up the same - them nagging the crap out of me and treating me like a baby! I'm turning 28-years old next month. Why can't they treat me like an adult? My dad still orders food for me when we go out to eat at restaurants. Makes me wish I lived 10,000 miles away from them so I wouldn't have to see them so often.
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Old 02-27-2010, 09:53 PM   #11 (permalink)
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My mother has 25 different ways of avoiding answering a question...

do you want something to eat?
i had a lovely cake yesterday
i must buy some bread later
My grandson eats like a horse...

I just smile sweetly until she runs out of evasions

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My Mom has this annoying habit where she will ask you a question 25 different ways.....heres an example

Do you want something to eat? No
When was the last time you ate? Couple hours ago..
Well you should be hungry why dont you eat? Im not hungry
Well you must be hungry let me make your something. Mom Im not hungry
Well you need to eat......

You guys get the point...finally one day I told her about it and she laughed and said she was sorry she would try not to do it anymore. So now when she starts to do it I just say "Mom your doing it again" and we laugh and she stops.

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Old 02-28-2010, 07:59 AM   #12 (permalink)
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live with your in laws for a while and you'll learn to appreciate your parents lol at least that's what happened to me!
O yes. This is so true. I have lived with my in laws for a while. They are very nice people, but they never can't be your parents. You have to be careful what you say, what you do, because if you say something that they don't like, they will not forgive you in the same way as your parents do. During the short time I lived with my mother in law, she gave me more advices than my mother gave me for more than 20 years that I lived with them. She still gives me advices when I call her, or she calls me. You can say to your mother,'' Please can you stop advising me? I'm not a teenager anymore! Leave me alone! But to you mother in law, politely,'' Ok mom. You are right. I will do it.
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Old 07-31-2012, 12:22 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Well, my parents are WIP control freaks. They are SLOWLY taking over my life. And invading my privacy. They are taking privileges away from me one by one. First, my online gaming, seccond, my skype, third, my netflix, fourth, i bed music, fifth, i bet having my door shut for anything other than sleeping. Its pissing me off. What should i do? I KNOW im a good negotiator though.
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Isnt that just a parents job to be difficult? :P


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Lmao this is always a bit strange to me. My parents were always the hands off type sooo I don't have to deal with that from my family. Gates on the other hand... feels like they are just a bunch of busy bodies....
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