Have a talk with them Send them a letter about what is nagging you they do when they are with oyu tell mthem you will love so much to can order your own food when you are out eating with your dad and also remiond them how old they were when they get married and had ... you!
be kind to them so to dont shrug them.
be be clear on what have chnaged and that they cant no longer do without pointing that you are a little girl and making oyu feeel bad or angry at them.
and when they are there have a talk with them about it.
But dont be bad and dont cry so much, think at all teh kids who dont have parents and kids who have parents who dont give a damn about them and kids with parents who let them take care of themselfves since they were 7 or 13... and thats a hell of a difference case.. but better too much than not enough or not any.. believe me.
Try to look at it with a smile, or make them a surprise an dwhen they ocem open the door dressed like abig baby with panpers on and thing in your mouth, and screammign mummyy! daddy<! i think they will get the message..
They spend their life making boundariesd for you, now htat youa re grown up it is your turn to make boundaries for them and draw a line in the sand.
Not taking it up with them show that you are not all mature since you dont dare to talk face to face with your parents and have a meeting about it unless they initiate it. So maybe you are unconciously keeping things that way..