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Old 10-05-2008, 01:33 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I know this is a generalization, but it's true, right? Women are attracted to a man with money, looks, and power? I feel like most women deny these because admitting it publicly gives them a bad social image since we're taught to look for more inner traits. They must give the socially acceptable response and downplay the real attraction. Plus it seems to make sense from an evolutionary and instinctive standpoint. So come on out! This is the internet and you're all anonymous, so lets be honest! It's just that what I find is that what women say what they want is often very different from what they actually choose. I personally don't know any women who married "down". The man is always above her in terms of either finance, physical attributes, or status/power.
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I know this is a generalization, but it's true, right? Women are attracted to a man with money, looks, and power? I feel like most women deny these because admitting it publicly gives them a bad social image since we're taught to look for more inner traits. They must give the socially acceptable response and downplay the real attraction. Plus it seems to make sense from an evolutionary and instinctive standpoint. So come on out! This is the internet and you're all anonymous, so lets be honest! It's just that what I find is that what women say what they want is often very different from what they actually choose. I personally don't know any women who married "down". The man is always above her in terms of either finance, physical attributes, or status/power.
ARen't just as many men attracted to those same things...Give women credit.

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ok you want honesty.
i can say , when i went out with boys it was for the fact that i liked that boy and he liked me.
my first serious boyfriend (16) , i was attracted to his looks. but i certainly did not think of money or n e thing else.
i married this bloke when i was 21. but he was just wrong in the end.
blokes after him, again personality and looks. until i met my 2nd hubby, we just clicked. he just made me laugh. when i met hubby number 2. it was about chemistry. his good looks to me, came from his inner personality, which i did not have with my first husband.
it wasnt about money, he had none.
i also think things can depend on your social circle.
i wasnt brought up with money in my family.
i dont use n e one and i see ppl for how they want to be seen.
as for power - you havent met me.
i would actually say im the reverse of what you have said.
im the one with the money, the looks and the power.
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My wife was attracted to men with Big ***** but she married me anyway.....
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seriously though, I think women go more off personality and someone that makes them laugh as opposed to looks, power and money, some do want that, but they are not normally happy in there marriage.

there is even a website called Sugardaddy com....My wife died laughing when she saw a commercial for it on TV
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It is a generalization. While this is true with some women, not ALL of us are this way. This could apply to men as well.

I touched on this in my post "Pride/Humility". When you see 20 something year old women going after much older men, it's usually because they have looks, money, and power. Unfortunately most men going thru a mid-life crisis just can't see the motives; they just enjoy the flattery.

I agree with your assessment that women rarely marry "down", Interesting....
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Old 10-05-2008, 10:43 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Thanks for your feedback, guys!

Draconis - I don't think that women admitting and going after money, looks, and status is a bad thing. In fact, I think it would be the smart and practical thing to do! But of course, love and relationships aren't always rational, else we could all just submit resumes and pick our partners quick and easily. I'm just wondering if it's subconscious, or something that's built into women from thousands and thousands of years of the theory of "hunter" (men) and gatherer (women) roles back in our tribal days. As I mentioned, what women say they want is rarely what they actually choose. This is all from my personal observations and experience so I'm no way saying this is objective. And yes, I know I'm being bias and one-sided on this, but I can't help it!

As for men wanting the same, I'm going to admit that this is not the case for me. The reason is that my ego is too big and needs to be stroked. If I can't be the provider or the strong one in the relationship, then I would feel useless and weak. I'm not saying I want a totally obedient partner because being totally depended upon is not a good thing either. Something like a 60/40 relationship.

Since women rarely choose "down" (Justean being the exception ), in my opinion, it makes me feel like I have to be 1-step higher than my future partner in terms of finance, looks, or power/status.

... and yes, probably having a huge "package" helps!
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When I met my wife (and yes she is good looking) I would not have dated her because she wasn't my normal body type. However it was her fun loving dynamic personality that pulled me in. I made much more then her at first but since marriage things have changed many times. She never knew what I made for monry until after we were married. I never was in a powerful position other then low level management at my job(s). I don't think looks alone attracted her to me.

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oh thats nice, i wil take that as a compliment. but again i have to reply.
in school i seemed to take to the boys who had confidence issues, or the boys that were treated differently because they werent the best in the class, or deemed as the "wrong sort". i was a tomboy and found the girls quite nasty. stil do.
but you know i stil get compliments of those same boys, and they stil tell me i treated no one differently.
i dont choose down , i chose what was right for me. i was the ugly duckling in school and i hated seeing others feel the same.
but you know the lookers of the school at that time, meet them 10, 15, 20 years later. - well let says im not ugly n e more.
and you dont have to have a "huge packet" - quality not quantity.
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I know this is a generalization, but it's true, right? Women are attracted to a man with money, looks, and power? I feel like most women deny these because admitting it publicly gives them a bad social image since we're taught to look for more inner traits. They must give the socially acceptable response and downplay the real attraction. Plus it seems to make sense from an evolutionary and instinctive standpoint. So come on out! This is the internet and you're all anonymous, so lets be honest! It's just that what I find is that what women say what they want is often very different from what they actually choose. I personally don't know any women who married "down". The man is always above her in terms of either finance, physical attributes, or status/power.

You can say about the same for some men too. Ok, if a girl that is only an A cup (if that) and a girl that was a C cup was at a bar. Which one do you think will get notice and hit on first?
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Old 10-06-2008, 12:27 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Here's an interesting article on MSN about women, money, and attraction, with some scientific studies referenced to back it up.

Is money an aphrodisiac - MSN Money

To summarize the article, YES women are attracted to money, but in the long run money alone cannot sustain the happiness in a relationship or marriage. Nonetheless, if a man had a lot of money, his opportunity to meet women would increase. That alone would be a good enough incentive, at least for me!
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Funny read the message board there, all the women said to much money was a turn off because the men had jobs that left them without. Or that it became a power control issue if the guy had alot of money. They also commented on how shallow the women must be.

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Draconis - that's why money alone is not a good indicator for long term relationships, however, it's a great magnet to lure in women. Now if I could at least lure in women and make it easier to meet them, then that's what I need to strive for.

There was another interesting article like this on ABC news that talked about beauty and attraction.

ABC News: The Ugly Truth About Beauty

And here's another interesting article:
ABC News: Why Nice Guys Finish Last
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