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Old 08-23-2011, 02:46 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default I don't like my dog :(

She's stubborn, she messes on the floor all the time, whether I'm home or not, runs away if I leave her outside (she gets under the gate), gets on top of the table and steals food when I'm not looking. I don't know how to handle her. She's almost 10 so I'd feel really bad getting rid of her, but I just don't know how much more I can take. I work a lot so I'm gone a lot, so I'm sure she'd be better off somewhere else. I just don't want her to go to a place where she'll be abused or worse, put down. Any suggestions?
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Obedience school?

We have a 4 year old golden lab who is pretty mellow but he takes classes and they really help.
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Old 08-23-2011, 04:33 AM   #3 (permalink)
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my sister trains her dog who is nearly 2 years old. she often uses dog tips for her breed, youtube videos, positive reinforcement techniques. she also had lessons up until the second to last class because she was getting spade, her being spade also helped, even though dog feels empty there sometimes.
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:05 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Train the dog to respect you not fear you
You are the human, the dog is the dog
Your dog gets away with whatever you let the dog get away with
Yelling at your dog is stupid your dog doesn't understand yelling
Dogs have an attention span that's pretty low
If you are angry or nervous in general your dog will be too
Your dog gets upset when you leave hence the messes
Walk your dog at least 45 minutes a day on the leash
Dogs get bored when they're left alone
Don't feed your dog people food if you don't want your dog to want people food
Give your dog a job - make it do something
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Old 08-23-2011, 11:39 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Train the dog to respect you not fear you
You are the human, the dog is the dog
Your dog gets away with whatever you let the dog get away with
Yelling at your dog is stupid your dog doesn't understand yelling
Dogs have an attention span that's pretty low
If you are angry or nervous in general your dog will be too
Your dog gets upset when you leave hence the messes
Walk your dog at least 45 minutes a day on the leash
Dogs get bored when they're left alone
Don't feed your dog people food if you don't want your dog to want people food
Give your dog a job - make it do something


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Dogs have pack mentality. Your dog needs to realize who is the top dog in your pack. Hint: It’s you. I love and care greatly for my dog, but she is a dog. She does not call the shots. I respect her and meet her K-9 needs and in return she respects that I am the pack leader under our roof.

Even at 10 years old your dog still has instinctual K-9 drive. All hope is not lost because of her age. If anything, your dogs behavior shows sings of being quite energetic. Seek training for the dog and education for yourself on how to handle her. You will both be much happier.
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Old 09-01-2011, 10:48 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Train the dog to respect you not fear you
You are the human, the dog is the dog
Your dog gets away with whatever you let the dog get away with
Yelling at your dog is stupid your dog doesn't understand yelling
Dogs have an attention span that's pretty low
If you are angry or nervous in general your dog will be too
Your dog gets upset when you leave hence the messes
Walk your dog at least 45 minutes a day on the leash
Dogs get bored when they're left alone
Don't feed your dog people food if you don't want your dog to want people food
Give your dog a job - make it do something
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Old 09-02-2011, 01:30 AM   #7 (permalink)
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My dog aced obedience school. But - looking back - I think he was just trying to impress the girls in the class!

He's got anger issues. Great with his family - but terrible with anyone else!
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Old 09-07-2011, 10:40 AM   #8 (permalink)
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All of dogs have been crate trained; having a crate eliminates the problem of messing when you're not home. Both of my current dogs are full grown and fully housebroken so they're not confined to the crate any longer. I've never used it as punishment, it was just part of the daily routine when they were puppies, and they LOVE the crate (it's like a "den" to them). I only have room for one crate right now and they argue over who gets the privilege of being in it.

Obedience training is another good suggestion to help you establish natural dominance. It will also get you into the groove of correcting negative behaviour and rewarding positive behaviour. Dogs respond much better to reward; the difficulty lies in eliciting the desired behaviour so you can positively reinforce it.

There is a certain responsibility on you to practice a bit of prevention too. I've had diggers and escape artists in my time; generally chicken wire put a stop to that until I could work out a more permanent solution (I had to build a better fence a few years ago). One of my former dogs was fond of chewing my shoes when she got mad at me, and I had to remember not to leave shoes lying around where she could reach them.
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Old 10-21-2011, 12:47 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Sounds like my Mrs ;-)
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bad behavior is usually caused by lack of assertiveness on your part. Become the pack leader and most of the issues should dissolve. Start watching Ceasar Milan perhaps!
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