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Well, we hear constantly that wives are disinterested in sex, yet there is a huge amount of research that keeps pointing in the opposite direction. What is interesting is that women tend to be better at getting away with it, with as many as 7/10 reporting that they never got caught. What we can do is realize that there is not a disinterest in sex, but a lack of the emotional backdrop, necessary for sexual desire to develop. When this situation exists, cheating is a statistical possibility. I feel the takeaway is the same though. There are character flaws that allow men or women to give into the dangerous lure of affairs. It is rare for individuals to cheat in strong relationships.
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I didn't read the whole thing, but here is my theory.


Women are 1-man creatures. In their own minds, they cannot give themselves to 2 men. Women like to "belong". So when they are in a relationship, they are completely faithful and try to salvage the relationship when bumps arise. Only when the relationshipship becomes so bad that she thinks that there is no hope (he is cheating a lot, he is physically abusive etc etc) that she makes the final break-off in her mind. Once she breaks it off emotionally, there is almost no going back. She might take the man back, but things will never never be the same and it may not even be worth getting back together for both parties. In short, I think women have a threshold of crap that they will endure. Once the crap goes beyond that, it's over forever.

Men can belong to more than one women. By that I mean that they may be married to one woman and have an affair with another woman and fully and easily justify it to themselves and go back to their wives without wrecking themselves emotionally. Men can compartmentalize wife and mistress worlds very well.

In summary, for women, it is binary. 0 or 1. There is no 0.65 or 0.25. Men have sliding levels of faithfulness and can go between the two ends more smoothly.

There is no good/bad, men and women are just different.

Disclaimer: Please don't yell and scream at what I posted, these are my observations from watching and reading about many people.
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Re: "Women More Likely To Cheat Than Men, According To Science"

I could write an article about cheating based on a poll taken here on TAM and say it's a study based on 3000 respondents or whatever. Means absolutely nothing.

Cheaters suck, plain and simple, male or female. And the one that sucks most of all is the one who cheated on YOU. All the so called studies in the world will never change what they did.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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generalizing for billions of people doesn't really help much. Different people, men and women, cheat or are tempted to cheat for different reasons.

It would take a very careful study to find out if there is a difference on average. Otherwise all you are really measuring is the difference in the people who happened to take the survey - and who may not have answered honestly.
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All I can say is that 100% of the married or formerly married women I know personally, outside of work have cheated. Half of them are or were married or living with the man they cheated on their former spouse with. Of the remaining half, about half of them are still married to their spouse as before while the other half are single.

I will couch that with the single exception in my own experience that I am aware of - a married woman who did not cheat but her ex husband did. In the divorce proceedings in court she lunged over the table and choked her soon to be ex until the bailiffs pulled her off and she went to jail. She's also an alcoholic.

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Only western white women! Just say'n.

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Well, we hear constantly that wives are disinterested in sex, yet there is a huge amount of research that keeps pointing in the opposite direction. What is interesting is that women tend to be better at getting away with it, with as many as 7/10 reporting that they never got caught. What we can do is realize that there is not a disinterest in sex, but a lack of the emotional backdrop, necessary for sexual desire to develop. When this situation exists, cheating is a statistical possibility. I feel the takeaway is the same though. There are character flaws that allow men or women to give into the dangerous lure of affairs. It is rare for individuals to cheat in strong relationships.
Sometimes it's just being bored in the sack and somebody turns you on.

It can just be that simple, and it can just be about being horny for good sex with an attractive partner.

Even for women.
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I didn't read the whole thing, but here is my theory.


Women are 1-man creatures. In their own minds, they cannot give themselves to 2 men. Women like to "belong". So when they are in a relationship, they are completely faithful and try to salvage the relationship when bumps arise. Only when the relationshipship becomes so bad that she thinks that there is no hope (he is cheating a lot, he is physically abusive etc etc) that she makes the final break-off in her mind. Once she breaks it off emotionally, there is almost no going back. She might take the man back, but things will never never be the same and it may not even be worth getting back together for both parties. In short, I think women have a threshold of crap that they will endure. Once the crap goes beyond that, it's over forever.

Men can belong to more than one women. By that I mean that they may be married to one woman and have an affair with another woman and fully and easily justify it to themselves and go back to their wives without wrecking themselves emotionally. Men can compartmentalize wife and mistress worlds very well.

In summary, for women, it is binary. 0 or 1. There is no 0.65 or 0.25. Men have sliding levels of faithfulness and can go between the two ends more smoothly.

There is no good/bad, men and women are just different.

Disclaimer: Please don't yell and scream at what I posted, these are my observations from watching and reading about many people.
I know plenty of women who refuse to be one man women.

Even one that demanded that her husband be faithful to her, but refused to be faithful to him. And loved ONS.

I think there were (and still are to some extent) societal pressures that make it look like women are all about the emotions and men are all about the sex, but those pressures are changing, and people are changing as a consequence.

Sometimes men are the ones feeling emotionally alone and just looking for someone to pay attention to them, and sometimes women are just looking to get laid.

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The number of women in my personal life that havent cheated is extremely low. This doesnt surprise me.
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Perhaps there are a small number of highly predatory males that account for this? Are female cheaters opportunistic in their cheating? This combination could result in a math discrepancy. Otherwise it's always puzzling to hear differences where the activity itself is 1:1 male/female.
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The number of women in my personal life that havent cheated is extremely low. This doesnt surprise me.
This surely explains your username.. that's pretty sad..

I think our circle of friends has more faithful couples over experiening the fall outs...We know about 4 other couples that's only been with each other... still married & seemingly happy..
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Women are 1-man creatures. In their own minds, they cannot give themselves to 2 men.
With the exception of all of the women who aren't 1 man creatures, that have no problems at all enjoying themselves with 2 or more men.
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Perhaps there are a small number of highly predatory males that account for this? Are female cheaters opportunistic in their cheating? This combination could result in a math discrepancy. Otherwise it's always puzzling to hear differences where the activity itself is 1:1 male/female.
I think to some extent you're correct. In my observations there are a few men who cheat, but they typically like to sleep around with numerous women. I only know of one man personally who had a "love affair", but several who just liked ONS or FWB short term PAs.

But the women I've known of who cheated were generally in only one affair at a time, and few total affairs. They generally were looking for a relationship, not for multiple ONS.

I know, or know of, only a few men who have been cheaters, but many more women.

Of course this is a generalization and there is a whole spectrum out there.
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