Ellis, just accept that you are the way you are and your wife is the way she is. As long as she isn't getting her feelings hurt, then you are doing everything just right. Don't feel guilty for being the way you are. Have you considered that your wife wouldn't change this about you for anything? Say that you started seeking her out in an effort to assuage her non-existent feelings of being neglected and she reacted by pulling away for her own alone time. What I'm saying is that water seeks it's own level - you and your wife's level is working. Relax and bask in your relationship as it is.
It is good, though, that you wonder about this. It shows that your relationship matters to you.
Not getting on your Ellis... but is it ALL GOOD with her....does she feel as you.. or you hope she feels it... because she doesn't complain she must feel it..
Going by that post you did on my Independent Behavior
thread... you said "Most weeks I would say getting 4hrs time together (no kids) is probably considered a good week. I see no reason to have some predetermined hours a week you are "supposed" to spend together, all that does it make it a chore, not really the intended purpose."
... so what is a bad week.... 2 hours of time together ??
Is this truly fulfilling / "still holding the intimacy" for your wife?
It's just not the norm, you know... it's perfectly well & good to be out of the box in any given area -if our spouses are wired the same, we may even especially LOVE these things about each other..... but still.. many a couple's had "apathy" slowly creep in - when so little time was spent together..
Now if you're both natural Loners, love doing your separate hobbies outside of each other too, yet wanted a family...then you're probably Ok.. Just be careful that she's not downplaying how she really feels here...sometimes women know that whatever they say or feel is not going to matter, like your job, you can't change your hours or how long you commute.... so they just don't go there..
I'd think to revisit this from time to time...as feelings can suddenly change.. she may be influenced by something or want to switch things up... realizing she wants, even needs , more time with her husband...